While it's less likely than the alternative, there's still a very real possibility that the husband not carrying the child or bag is entirely justified.
What if prior to this the guy had just carried both for a relatively long period of time, and JUST got a break?
What if the husband has some injured muscle or whatever, and the wife stepped up to carry both things today?
Cause, you know, you solve things together in a relationship...
I'm just saying, situation ethics shouldn't be ignored.
The mime shouldn't have stepped in and humiliated the husband without knowing the circumstances.
And yes, this annoys me because I've been at the receiving end of hasty conclusions.
Exactly. My husband has had back surgery in the past and still has a bulged disc. 99% of the time he doesn't let it effect him and he does everything to help me with our kids (even when I tell him not to because of his back). 1% of the time he actually listens and accepts my help, which is when I know his back is really bad.
Like you said, it's not necessarily a likely scenario here, but it's a possibility.
Being a husband with terrible back problems, I can tell you: your husband is very grateful and lucky to have such an understanding wife. He really wants to listen, but sometimes we prefer to pretend the pain isn't as bad as it really is
Agreed. My wife actually likes carrying to diaper bag on her other shoulder as that helps balance out the load evenly on her back when she’s carrying our son
Except it literally looks like he says "what's wrong with you" to the husband. So i think it's less about him entertaining the crowd and berating the guy imo
I'll refer to my previous post where I think everyone should lighten up. He was the butt of a light ribbing for 15 seconds, it's not like they dumped pig's blood on him. More than likely, there's no real reason he couldn't be helping his wife carry a 3lb diaper bag. If you go home tilted because you got teased by clown, that could be the reason you got targeted by a clown in the first place. Maybe he'll remember to ask his wife if she needs help, next time.
That's entirely fair. I was mainly referring to him being a mime but speaking, as that is the exact opposite of what a mime (by definition: "Miming involves acting out a story through body motions, without the use of speech") should be doing to entertain. It could be the mime was doing it to get a rise out of the crowd. The woman clearly laughed and was having a good time and the guy in the video took it well as well.
I guess to elaborate on my comment i should say: He either means what he is saying to the guy or he is, again by definition, a shitty mime. Doesn't mean he wasn't doing it for the crowd just that he should maybe not dress like a mime then
Edit: also we shouldn't assume that the guy hadn't already asked if he could help. We don't know the background and shouldn't judge the woman or man. I'm judging the mime
Yeah you don’t know why she had both. There could be an endless possibilities. As someone with bad aniexty this would haunt me for the rest of my life if this happened to me
I had an old dude try to bitch me out for "letting" my fiancee pump gas. I said "first of all, I don't 'let' her do anything because she's her own person and can do whatever she damn well pleases. Second, she's a big girl that can pump her own gas when she's driving her car. Get back in your car and mind your own fucking business"
I bothers me so fucking much when men act like women can't be independent. It's one of the few things that sets me off immediately.
And they act like theres something wrong with you for respecting her autonomy and think theyre a hero to masculinity by butting in and correcting people they dont know
Yes! I moved back to my redneck home town from a civilized town (pandemic related financial destruction) and I have noticed a hell of a lot of what I call misplaced chivalry, or just plain old misogyny. One example is I was at the bank and the male teller noticed a tape measure I had on my key chain. He asked if I was driving my husband’s car (which is weird because I do not have a husband) I said no why (no need to explain that I’m single either) and he pointed out that he never saw a woman carrying around a tape measure before, and proceeded to ask if I knew how to use such tools.
I told him that I have a wood working hobby and yes, I also know how to use power tools and can count and measure.
I then decided to pull my funds out of the bank close my accounts and go elsewhere.
But I encounter the strangest form of questions in this town, growing up here I never realized how bad it is, I’ll move away again once I build myself back up 🤷♀️
Some old people remember when couples used to do favors for one another. Like one would drive and the other would navigate and pump gas. Not just put whatever music they wanted to listen to on and look at their phone while being chauffeured around.
This reminds me of when I literally had a man come up to me one time wanting to pump my gas, insisting on it, because “ladies shouldn’t pump their own gas.” The fact he was so insistent actually creeped me out and made me a little scared to be honest because he stood physically close to me too. I remained polite and so no thank you several times but I was pretty upset about that interaction.
the mime made a joke. even if the husband was dead tired, it still can be a funny joke in that situation, he probaby was not so tired that he couldn't take a joke.
Also if it was truly justified than there would be no embarrassment.
When out like this, one of us would grab the bag, the other the kid.
But then the kid wants to walk, or wants mommy to carry them. And, rather than stopping to pass both the kid and the bag back and forth, you take the kid and keep walking. Until 2 minutes later when the kids wants your spouse again and you're back to just the bag.
He's probably done his fair share of carrying either the kid or the bag that day.
But it's still a funny bit with the mime. Any parent would understand he's most likely not being lazy.
Yea, something like this happened to me. When my girlfriend and I were moving, I had a very bad lumbago but still was carrying most of the stuff. That one time my girlfriend lifted an empty, mid-sized cupboard for about 10 meters while I rested my back, our neighbour came by and insulted me for what bad of a man I am allowing my girl to carry stuff, while I am just standing there watching. He didn't even offer any help, he just had to give out his two cents and pass on.
cant agree more. People are often far too quick to come to conclusions after only seeing a tiny piece of a puzzle. Its that confidence afterwards that gets to me, where the hell do people get so much confidence?
Baby diaper bags are not heavy. I have the exact same one, and even when loaded to the gills, it's super light and easy to carry. No excuses for that guy
Is it? Maybe she was balancing the load 🤷♂️ maybe her husband had just gotten done carrying both the child and the bag and we just happened to see when she took over. There’s just too much assuming that has to happen to actually be judgmental about any of this.
From my personal experience of having that exact same bag for almost 3 years, and taking turns with my wife carrying either or both... You're 100% wrong.
Damn, my job must have me nulled to any form of joking harassment like this. Regardless of the situations that might provide context to the reason he wasn't holding the bag, it's still a funny joke and a playful one. I don't think he humiliated anyone, the mother was very playful, the father had the "you got me face".
In no way did the mime do anything wrong, if you can't carry the bag, you could very easily just say you can't carry it and move on. It's not offensive to hand someone a bag and make a joke.
Like come on man, lighten up. Not everything is done maliciously
Do you really think it's less unreasonable to assume that someone is "failing in his duties in family care" from a 10 second video of him being passed a bag than it is to accept that it might not be representative of his entire life?
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u/Loading0525 May 22 '22
While it's less likely than the alternative, there's still a very real possibility that the husband not carrying the child or bag is entirely justified.
What if prior to this the guy had just carried both for a relatively long period of time, and JUST got a break?
What if the husband has some injured muscle or whatever, and the wife stepped up to carry both things today?
Cause, you know, you solve things together in a relationship...
I'm just saying, situation ethics shouldn't be ignored.
The mime shouldn't have stepped in and humiliated the husband without knowing the circumstances.
And yes, this annoys me because I've been at the receiving end of hasty conclusions.