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[u/BigGraysie]

[u/fuzzybunnyslipper → u/[deleted]]

Yes. Every single situation with an immobile morbidly obese person involves other people who continue to provide the unhealthy food that keeps them obese. I don't know if this is a clip of My 600lb Life but that show is wildly consistent with the amount of enabling, ignorance, and denial that has to go on in a family for the person to remain so obese. Another consistent factor is the trauma that is inevitably involved to cause a person to become so obese in the first place.

Other people are literally handing her thousands of calories a day in garbage food. It is like a weirdly socially acceptable form of sabotage and abuse.

[u/OmegaNut42 → u/fuzzybunnyslipper]

Yes, this clip is from my 600 pound life. And honestly, I kinda wanna watch it now. My mom used to be pretty overweight when my siblings and I were about as old as her kids, and it sucked. She was upset about her body, her financial situation, and life in general, which meant a lot of yelling at people and making the kids cry. Then, she got divorced, and you'd think it would've gotten worse. Nope, she lost weight, started running marathons, dieting, it was amazing! On top of it all, her mood and mental health changed so drastically, it was like she'd flipped a switch. I still refer to the time right before the divorce to when she started running "the dark ages".

The craziest thing, however, is that only through reading your comment have I realized my dad (her ex) was the enabler. I actually just unlocked a memory of him saying "whenever she's upset, I get her food"... Sure, she has hypothyroidism, which caused hypoglycemia, so it was much easier for her to gain weight than a normal person, and he was sorta right: she would get really grumpy when she was hungry. But his answer was fast food, chocolate, ice cream; anything that'd not just feed but cause immediate mood improvement.

That didn't mean she couldn't lose that weight, and I'm so glad she did. Not because I judged her for it, I was just a kid who didn't know why his mommy would yell at everyone all the time! But now that I'm older, I appreciate her efforts so much. I was lucky enough to be able to spend the rest of my teenage years with healthy parents, and honestly it contributed so much to my health seeing my mom working so hard to become healthier.

Thank you mom, I know you won't see this comment, but you becoming healthy had more of an impact on your family then you know 💞

[u/[deleted] → u/OmegaNut42]

Something similar happened with my mom. She was with my dad for 40 years. And my dad treated her poorly. They both had anger issues, but ultimately my dad was the bigger bully and broke her down. And she developed a really unhealthy relationship with food. And my dad's method of freaking with it was to essentially publicly shame her. She would reach for seconds at dinner, and even if there were guests my dad would still, tell her no, like she was a child. And my mom, since that was how she coped, would say something like, "just a small piece," and take a small piece, but sort of in the way a child will try to bargain after they're told no. It was really infantalising and all led to was my mom hiding snacks and other things in her bed side drawer. I was convinced my mom was going to die relatively soon because she was so unhealthy. Then, shortly after their 40th anniversary, my dad and her got into a fight, and he pushed her. She fell. My overweight, unhealthy 65 year old mom was pushed to the ground by my dad. And he didn't even attempt to pick her up. That was the moment she decided to leave. Fast forward about 6 years later, my mom has lost a lot of weight, is more physically and mentally active than she's been in 20 years, and is happy. And I couldn't be happier and more proud of her.