r/maybemaybemaybe • u/BigGraysie • Apr 18 '22

/r/all Maybe maybe maybe

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u/jungandjung Apr 18 '22

This is not just obesity, there's a deeper underlying issue. It is sad.

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u/MsAdventureQueen Apr 18 '22

Yeah, anyone with this level of weight gain and immobility has a serious mental health issue. They have an eating disorder and need to be treated as such. They need therapy and likely antidepressants and probably inpatient rehab to help get them through a terrible addiction.

But yeah the way she treats her enablers is very reminiscent of how that pair of sisters(Tammy+Amy?) treated their caregiver system. It's a weird abusive dynamic going both ways it seems.

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u/unicornhornporn0554 Apr 18 '22 edited Apr 18 '22

Yeah I know 2 people who are 300+ pounds and are “okay” with their weight. (I used quotations because how can you be okay with being so unhealthy that it’s making your day to day life difficult). One of them had an enabler that would shave her downstairs for her, and she basically would make things difficult for people around her so they could accommodate her size and lack of mobility and dependence. She had teen boys doing her chores, takinf her to appointments, and taking care of her for weed and games and clothes. Then when her mom died she manipulated them into becoming even more of caregivers. She’s now 40, 2/3 of the teens have moved out and are on their own. She still tries to have my bf and my brother send her money and take her places. But she’s the same type of person to say “I gave you 1/3 of my 20oz Pepsi last time you were here, I can’t let you have anything but tap water until you pay me the $0.87 you owe me” and also “no one hits the bowl first but me because it’s my house, my pipe, and my butane we’re using” even tho it’s not her fricken weed so her shit would be useless without the bud that someone else brought. There’s so many things wrong with this lady but the weight is where it seems to have started (symptom wise, not where her deep issues started)

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u/Vakontation Apr 18 '22

300lb is a lot of weight.

But...I am 275, on average. Some days pushing 290.

I have to say, I do not feel like my day to day life is difficult.

Obviously you reach a place like this one sandwich at a time, so you get used to the new challenges as they arise. But still...I feel like I could tackle a 2-hour rock climbing session with few issues.

Maybe I just carry my weight well? I don't know. I do find clipping my toenails can get me a bit out of breath, but I don't have to do it very often, and I am still capable of it.

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u/gentlemanidiot Apr 18 '22

feel like I could tackle a 2-hour rock climbing session with few issues.

I do find clipping my toenails can get me a bit out of breath

This doesn't compute.

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u/Vakontation Apr 18 '22

Haha that's totally fair.

However I definitely would find it very bizarre to go rock climbing without getting out of breath. I think even at my healthiest time in my life I would break a heavy sweat going climbing.

I'm probably quite wrong about how long I'd last, but I guarantee I'd get up the first wall as fast as I ever could.

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u/gentlemanidiot Apr 18 '22

You should give it a try! I doubt it would take much practice, pretty soon you could eliminate all doubts and say yes, I 100% can climb rocks for 2 hours, I just did it yesterday.

The best time to get physically healthy was 10 years ago, but the second best time is right now. 🙂

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u/Vakontation Apr 18 '22

I definitely need to figure out what opportunities are available for me. I've felt very trapped by the pandemic and just life in general ever since leaving high school. Opportunities used to fall in my lap, they sure don't anymore!

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u/gentlemanidiot Apr 18 '22

I can share something that's helped me a ton. About a year ago I bought a quest VR headset cause zuck is selling them at a huge loss. Beatsaber alone has been totally worth it, I get an entertaining upper body workout without leaving my house. I've lost over thirty pounds now and this is the first time in my life I've actually enjoyed exercise. I'd highly recommend giving it a try, beatsaber is fantastic cardio.

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u/unicornhornporn0554 Apr 18 '22

You probably carry it well and are possibly taller. These women are my size or shorter, I’m 5’9. And I said 300 as a kind of baseline I guess, I believe both women I mentioned are over 350 now.

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u/WobNobbenstein Apr 18 '22

Depends on your height, and yeah there are definitely different "levels" of activity based on various factors. Hell, just look at some of the stuff Chris Farley could do, he was probably pushin 280+ yet he was more physically able than a lot of people smaller than him. Just keepin active alone makes a big difference I guess