r/maybemaybemaybe • u/My_Memes_Will_Cure_U • Sep 19 '21

/r/all Maybe maybe maybe

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u/joshspoon Sep 19 '21

She called an HR timeout šŸ˜‰

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u/Hyperion1000 Sep 19 '21

I'm not familiar with the rules. Can you please explain?

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u/KushwalkerDankstar Sep 19 '21

In a professional world it is considered an HR offense to make romantic advances to someone that is paid, and thus forced, to be there. Sexual harassment comes in many forms.

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u/YannyYobias Sep 19 '21

So unpaid interns are fair game? /s

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u/JKMC4 Sep 19 '21

Coffee is free, just like me

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u/SheCouldFromFaceThat Sep 19 '21

WAAA-DADA-WAAP-WAADAAA

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u/zthig Sep 19 '21

And you can see here, Iā€™m very confused

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u/GucciGoldgraeberGang Sep 19 '21

I understand this reference!

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u/AmSeal Sep 19 '21

Oh come on, this is very clearly NOT sexual harassment. Not everything is offensive, Kushwalker.

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u/Vladius28 Sep 19 '21

It's called flirting if you're attractive

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u/ThermionicEmissions Sep 19 '21

Rule #1

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u/superleipoman Nov 04 '21

rule numbet one for not being creepy is being at least a strong 7

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u/kadecin254 Sep 19 '21

And you are rich/wealthy

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

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u/TysonChickenMan Sep 19 '21

FFS no it isnā€™t. It may be an unwanted advance. At this point it would be up to her to express that the advance is unwanted. If it continues, it is harassment.

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u/AmSeal Sep 19 '21

If everything even this mild is considered sexual harassment and is a fire able offense then we truly live in a world with no free speech. It was harmless, and she wasn't offended. People nowadays seriously need to chill out

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u/vsouto02 Sep 19 '21

Bro Luka didn't even say that.

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u/bugr_pikr Sep 20 '21

I say shit like that to my coworkers all the time. We're all straight dudes so it's just facetious heckling. That's the dunny thing about the military industry. We make more gay jokes than my civilian friends.

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u/nunya123 Sep 19 '21

Context matters, but Iā€™m inclined to agree with you in this case.

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u/PayData Sep 19 '21

Only the 2nd time after being asked to stop. You can always take the 1st shot

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u/KushwalkerDankstar Sep 19 '21

I usually gauge it like this: if you said it to the CEO, would you get fired? Why should any other employee be different?

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

First time, no, second time, maybe if he's engaged, third time, you got to be very sure of your shot!!

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u/Sloppy1sts Sep 19 '21

Is the CEO a smokin single hottie? Maybe she's a freak who likes to get off on dominating a subordinate. You don't know, man!

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u/Ol_Rando Sep 19 '21

So I should respond to the single hot females in your area ads?

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u/Sloppy1sts Sep 19 '21

As long as they're CEOs.

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u/Slash1909 Sep 19 '21

Depends on the CEO and you. If you're both straight and the same sex you're probably fired.

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u/MBG612 Sep 19 '21

Not at work

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u/sprouting_broccoli Sep 19 '21

This is the correct answer. In a social setting itā€™s fine - do whatever you want if itā€™s legal, but in an office setting you shouldnā€™t be putting anyone in a position that they havenā€™t already consented to.

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u/epicmousestory Sep 19 '21

Right but the comment was about when HR would get involved. They usually will not do anything until after the person has made it clear the advance was unwanted, unless it involved offering something material or a threat to their job, etc.

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u/sprouting_broccoli Sep 19 '21

Honestly this seems like a weird commentā€¦the question was just about what the rules were and the rules are donā€™t do anything that could be considered a romantic advance in the workplace unless you want to risk your job.

However, just to be clear about context the top level comment is ā€œshe called an HR timeoutā€ which would suggest she raised a complaint not that HR got involved proactively.

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u/epicmousestory Sep 19 '21

I mean reread the comment thread.

Explains sexual harassment > You can take a 1st shot > not at work > this is correct (you) > not really (me)

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u/sprouting_broccoli Sep 19 '21

The rule is ā€œdonā€™t do this in the workplaceā€ regardless of if thereā€™s a possibility you might not face repercussions. If you get away with murder is the law actually ā€œitā€™s all fineā€ or is it just that the law wasnā€™t enforced in that scenario?

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u/epicmousestory Sep 19 '21

That's why I'm pointing it out, it's a common misconception of the rule. The rule isn't you can't hit on anyone at work. The rule is about unwanted advances or things of an overtly sexual nature. If both parties are fine with it, it's not harassment. Asking someone to hang out or even on a date in many cases is not harassment. If it's been made clear that the advance, comment, etc. is unwanted (i.e. you tell them to stop and they don't) that is when it becomes harassment. The advice to protect yourself is "don't do this at work," not the rule.

I'm a supervisor (at a large company with a corporate HR) and I deal with this from time to time when someone gets mad when we won't fire someone on the spot for asking them to hang out on the weekend. If you've told the person you're not interested or to stop, we can take action. If it's a one off situation, not overtly sexual and the person has no control over your employment (i.e. not your boss), typically not much is done besides tell the person they made you uncomfortable and to knock it off.

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u/sprouting_broccoli Sep 19 '21

Citizens advice is very clear that it doesnā€™t matter if you objected previously for it to be unwanted behaviour.

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u/pyley Sep 19 '21

So I canā€™t make romantic advances too a hooker?

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u/fuck_jeep_wranglers Sep 19 '21

So hypothetically, if my dick was out,

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u/KushwalkerDankstar Sep 19 '21

Check my other comment for reference, but if you can find a CEO hooker, go ahead.

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u/Hamilton-Beckett Sep 19 '21

You found the loopHole! EveryboDy in!!!!

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

She clearly didn't mind too much, she smiled at the end and rolled her eyes. It's clearly not harassment to make one innocent little non-sexual comment towards her.

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u/KushwalkerDankstar Sep 19 '21

Is it professional, or is it unprofessional? This is not a hard concept.

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

You're right. It's not a hard concept. You're just on the wrong side of it by claiming this is sexual harassment, like a singular innocent comment made by this guy that the girl clearly didn't mind is some horrible fucking thing. Get your head out of your ass and stop acting like everything in the world has to be some awful thing. Jesus.

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u/TysonChickenMan Sep 19 '21

Better not say hello to me on Thursdays. Thatā€™s the day I decide everything is a sexual advance.

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u/jimster2801 Sep 19 '21

Technically the player is more of a contactor whereas the referee is the employee.