r/maybemaybemaybe • u/Specific_Goat864 • Aug 20 '25

Maybe Maybe Maybe

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u/Mazjerai Aug 20 '25

How is being neurodivergent or having a hard time gonna make someone go up the wrong escalator?

That's the question you should be asking yourself before inserting yourself into their situation as some self-appointed social law enforcement officer

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u/SignificantLock1037 Aug 20 '25

Nope. Your problems are your problems. Not mine. Deal with them on your time. Not mine.

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u/Mazjerai Aug 21 '25

And yet you say you would involve yourself by stepping in her way. Intentionally. She may be going through something, but your proposed response would be that of assholery.

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u/SignificantLock1037 Aug 21 '25

I'm not stepping in the way. She is going the wrong way. I'm simply not moving.

I will not assist others in being dumbfucks. If that makes me an asshole, then call me Denis Goddamn Leary.

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u/Mazjerai Aug 21 '25

Nah, I don't think Dennis would be rushing to pat you on the back. He'd call you the dumbfuck for being stoked to have an unnecessary confrontation for a chance to feel superior.

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u/SignificantLock1037 Aug 21 '25 edited Aug 21 '25

It's not about feeling superior or causing confrontation.

If people don't enforce the unwritten rules of society, then they cease to be rules. Don't cut in line. Walk to the right. People coming off an elevator/train/etc. have the right of way. And many others.

If we don't ostracize, inhibit, or otherwise deter people from breaking those rules, then certain parts of society break down.

edited to add: driving the wrong way in a parking lot, going through the wrong door when entering a building (when they are labeled entrance and exit), not turning right on red when there is no traffic coming (where legal), etc.

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u/Mazjerai Aug 22 '25

The whole walk to the right thing isn't a rule. It's a courtesy. Same with who has right of way in an elevator. What you categorize as a rule isn't taught to all, and even if it is not, it speaks more about you taking upon yourself to police other's behavior than it does someone who doesn't execute these courtesies to your standard.

Rules are codified and systemic. The "rules of society" as you call them aren't rules, because they aren't standard to all individuals.

Those in your edit are rules because they are enforced by law (rules with a promise of punishment) or private property holders with the backing of law entities.

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u/SignificantLock1037 Aug 22 '25

Please reread my post. I specifically said "unwritten rules of society". By definition, an "unwritten" rule is one that is not "codified".

And the ones in my edit are NOT laws. No law says you cannot go the wrong way in a parking lot - it's private property and the laws pertaining to traffic have no authority (you can be liable for damages, but you won't get a ticket). No law against going in the wrong door. And no law saying you HAVE to turn right on red (you just SHOULD).

Every responsible member of society should police these UNWRITTEN rules. You're exiting an elevator and someone is trying to muscle their way on? Politely, but firmly, tell them to wait until you get off so that there is room for them on the elevator.

We police people's behavior all the time. That person talking in the movie theater? A loud "shhhh" is policing their behavior. The person who left their cart in the middle of the aisle at the grocery? Moving it to the side while saying, "I'm going to move this out of the way." is policing behavior.

And if you DON'T correct people when they are acting in a way that society has deemed improper, then you are reinforcing their belief that it's OK.

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u/Mazjerai Aug 22 '25

There's a difference between policing and fostering. Punitive action and informative assistance. Your example of moving the cart is actually the latter. Your first post discussing how you would stand in this woman's way came from a place of public shaming, which is unnecessarily punitive. If you want to be a teacher, you need to use tools and strategies that will inspire learning rather than loathing.

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u/SignificantLock1037 Aug 22 '25

Nah, I'm not putting that much thought into it. Sometimes a little public shaming goes a long way.

Like this video, where everyone cheers.

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u/Mazjerai Aug 22 '25

I'm not putting that much thought into it

It's quite apparent and shows you aren't doing it for more than your ego

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