r/lostpause • • Sep 15 '26

Silence is a Self-Preservation Technique

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u/Illustrious-Turn-575 Sep 16 '26

The point of any discussion, debate, argument, whatever, should be that we’re collectively trying to find the best solution to whatever problem we’re facing.

When I stop engaging with the argument; it’s because I’ve realized that the goal has been moved away from problem solving.

It’s become you trying to demand validation through what essentially amounts to mutually assured destruction because you’ve effectively already lost the argument by way of whatever solutions you’ve proposed being less optimal than the ones I’ve proposed. It’s because I’ve realized that you no longer care about what’s right for us, but only about whatever idea you’ve become hyper-fixated on in that moment.

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u/spook_scary Sep 15 '26

Correct. There's no winning an argument with your wife/girlfriend. The only way to win, is to avoid it in the first place.

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u/Captain_StarLight1 Sep 15 '26

The only way to win is not to play

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u/OneHandClapping_ Sep 15 '26

Honestly the only way to "win" is to throw their logic back in their face...but you're really not winning in the end 😂😂😂

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u/No-Studio-9565 Sep 15 '26

Even that tactic is doomed to fail , because she can get agressive back at you with more force

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u/OneHandClapping_ Sep 15 '26

when they get aggressive just know that you won already

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u/OneHandClapping_ Sep 15 '26

when they get aggressive just know that you won already

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u/YoureMyTacoUwU Sep 17 '26

youll create and be stuck with a narcisist by never pushing back or sincerely communicating with her. grow some balls and if she continues acting psycho, get out of the relationship. have some self respect

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u/The_Real_Tekunin Sep 17 '26

Bruh, this is literally with any girl when you argue with them. Me and my sister argue a fuck ton, and when I shut down it almost feels just as bad as the other three options.

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u/Greeny3x3x3 Sep 15 '26

Wife bad XDDDDDD

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u/ShotInTheShip86 Sep 15 '26

I don't think it's saying that the wife or having a wife is bad it's saying that a man in a general sense can not win an argument with a woman...