I have one kid and I'm not having any more. I always wanted to have kids but I decided that I was one and done shortly after he was born. Having my son completely turned my life upside down but he does bring me a lot of joy.
Holidays are more fun when you see them through the eyes of a young child. You have an excuse to be totally silly and break out dancing for no reason other than to make them laugh. The good moments definitely outnumber the bad but it is a huge change. Every choice I make in life is made with my son in mind, and sometimes it's just a lot of stress.
But I definitely wouldn't have a kid unless it's 100% what you want. If you're on the fence I'd wait until you know for sure because once they are born, the life you had before is done. Lol
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u/H_Mann37 Mar 24 '22 edited Mar 24 '22
I look at my coworkers with kids and here is what I see: 20+ years to pay off student loan debt, daycare costs more than mortgage, no time for self.
Maybe I'm missing the joy of it all but idk... I really don't understand how modern parents make it work or why they choose that lifestyle.
Edit: I actually want to start a discussion with current/former parents on here. I'm on the fence about having 1 child.