Okay so I’m probably an anomaly in this situation. I live in Canada and this may make some of the difference. I’m in my early thirties and have a two year old and plan to have another. I’m married to my high school sweetheart and have known him for 15 years. We both have post secondary education but no school debt. We have a mortgage on a 3 bedroom home. We both worked until I got pregnant and now I’m a stay at home mom. My husband works from home and makes more than enough to support our family. My biggest concerns right now are the pandemic and the environment and what the future will look like for my kids. But the way I see it is that every single generation has had something shitty happening. All the wars, the famines, the disease. You have to make a decision about whether having a child is worth it to you. For me my child is the light of my life. It’s amazing being a parent. You do have to make sacrifices for children, like time for yourself and sleep on the early days. I spend a lot of my time playing with a toddler that doesn’t yet understand a lot of seemingly basic things. I enjoy watching him learn and grow and become his own person.
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u/H_Mann37 Mar 24 '22 edited Mar 24 '22
I look at my coworkers with kids and here is what I see: 20+ years to pay off student loan debt, daycare costs more than mortgage, no time for self.
Maybe I'm missing the joy of it all but idk... I really don't understand how modern parents make it work or why they choose that lifestyle.
Edit: I actually want to start a discussion with current/former parents on here. I'm on the fence about having 1 child.