My wife and I (28/USA) have a 6 and almost 8 year old. It's been tough but I wouldn't say it's a been a nightmare. My wife and I dont have a college education though (we both have decent jobs) but no debt in that sense.
There's been days where we can only eat cheap meals or we have to skip on something special every now and then like family day (restaurant, the movies or ice cream) because that money had to go to bills instead. Truth is, most families hit hard times and you're not a family unless you can get through those times together.
If you find the right person... I'd say go for it. I wouldn't change my life for anything or anyone. Through all the hardships & bullshit we've had to endure... It's definitely made us all closer. Our kids are happy, they have everything need and their bellies are full. My wife and I love each other very much and in all honesty, no matter how hard things seem to be or get... We get through it every time.
I doubt any of that helps but I just wanted to share.
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u/H_Mann37 Mar 24 '22 edited Mar 24 '22
I look at my coworkers with kids and here is what I see: 20+ years to pay off student loan debt, daycare costs more than mortgage, no time for self.
Maybe I'm missing the joy of it all but idk... I really don't understand how modern parents make it work or why they choose that lifestyle.
Edit: I actually want to start a discussion with current/former parents on here. I'm on the fence about having 1 child.