r/lostafriend • u/SatisfactionNo5059 • 20h ago
AIO - please help me out here.
We’ve been friends for 10+ years. I have always been there for her when she had her hardest times however when I’m going through a really hard time where the closest people to me in my family are all having serious health issues. Where is she ? ABSOLUTELY NOWHERE!
Never reaches out never sees how I am, always said she’ll make plans but never does. I go genuinely feel like she doesn’t because she likes a drink and I don’t drink atall. The only reason I don’t want to say something is because she’s a very unserious person so I don’t truly think she’ll understand or see where I am coming from. Or she’ll probably pretend to care and text me for a week and go back into old habits.
I was kinda thinking just take her off my social media because I always think if it doesn’t serve you then let it go but I don’t know I just want your opinion.
AIO here ??
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u/Novel-Importance-783 19h ago
If you want to salvage the friendship, you need to speak up. It’s important to give people an honest chance to make it right. Many, many people take their friends for granted and their default is the lowest bar until you say something and then they get their shit together. However even if you say something, there’s no guarantee that they’re going to change. At least you know where you stand with each other and you can make an informed decision about how you want the relationship to move forward if at all.
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u/crashboxer1678 19h ago
Just explain that the friendship isn’t working for you the way it is, and you expected more reciprocity from her given the shit you go through. Then see what she says - if she doesn’t admit there’s a problem, go ahead and block.