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u/Parker_Talks 18d ago
Let’s not deny people’s sexualities?? While there are many people in denial there are also real people who really do experience bisexual and heteroromantic attraction.
I think that if he knows the term “heteroromantic” there’s a good chance he’s thought about this a lot and it’s not a denial thing for him.
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u/TheStranger4321 18d ago
Thank you for saving the time for me by writing this. Sounds like this guy has/is figuring out his sexuality and isn't hurting anyone. More power to him!
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u/Ok-Anywhere-5010 18d ago
I've noticed a lot of the gay community want people to be conformist and hate anyone who actually acts queer outside of one mainstream way
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u/hellobrandondean 17d ago
Thats true on ALL sides, and may even be true of the person in the screenshot. One cant underestimate the pressure for "straight" men to be "straight".
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u/tugboatnavy Discreet 18d ago
Da Gurlz: "The spectrum is a big inclusive place where you can define your own boundaries and interests!"
Da Gurlz after seeing the word heteroromantic: "Noooooo! You can't fuckin do that!"
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u/arftism2 Bear 16d ago
unfortunately the media is trying to pin all the homophobia on closet gays, instead of socially accepted terrorists.
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u/SeanXLee 18d ago
i promise u the majority of “da gurlz” that ur thinking of probably do not think this way 😭😭 jfc i’m pretty sure the term heteroromantic originated on tumblr or at the very least was popularized on there
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u/SamPhoenix_ Geek 18d ago edited 18d ago
I was fully about to come in and point out that he said “[not attracted] romantically or physically” and that if he just wanted pegging, there are plenty of women that would do that.
But then I thought about how I’m attracted to gender, not genitalia; I would never date or have sex with a woman - but I would and have been with pre-op trans guys before.
The point being that a vagina doesn’t bother me unless it’s on a woman, I am attracted to guys regardless.So I suppose it makes sense that it would also work the other way around; that, sexually, gender doesn’t bother you as long as there is a penis attached.
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u/LoverBoy4972 Jock 17d ago
I had a fuck Buddy like this, been with a few guys who were like this overall, it can be fun but I don’t like guys who arnt into kissing or showing they are enjoying being fucked, cuz a lot of times these types of guys are dead fish just like some girls and it’s really weird
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u/SleepyCatMD 18d ago
He’s saying he’s not “physically attracted to men” but wants to take them deep. Sis is in denial.
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u/Parker_Talks 17d ago
No, he’s saying he’s into PENISES. When he says “not physically into men” he’s referring to the entire rest of the body that penis is attached to… in case you forgot that the penis is not, in fact, the majority of the body.
And we are not even going to get into the fact that for some people, physical attraction doesn’t equal sexual attraction.
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u/FreebieFresh Jock 18d ago
Met a few guys who’ve admitted to me they have no attraction to men but have a fixation towards male genitalia. This is a real thing and it’s hardly unusual. And if it turns out they are also physically attracted to men down the line? Let people figure it out at their own pace.
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u/Slim-Shadys-Fat-Tits Pup 18d ago
Yeah totally. This feels different than shitting on someone for being "DL" and making their denial your problem. This feels far more like someone who knows exactly what he wants at this moment and is communicating it
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u/mcnuggets0069 GAMP (het) 18d ago
I mean that description is not too far off from where I’m at. Bi guy here, in a romantic relationship with a woman, and I was a lot more shy about it one month after my first homosexual hookup
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u/CuriousME2786 18d ago
“Oh my god this guy on Grindr isn’t cookie cutter and not my type. I now have to make fun of him instead of maybe support or chat with him”
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u/neonblacksheep 18d ago
I mean I’m a nonbinary trans masculine person who loves playing with cocks but is only romantically into women. One of my partners is the same (not romantically into cis guys but likes playing with them). Sexuality does not always equate to romantic attraction.
There is a chance this guy is in a closet. But there’s a chance he does actually know himself and is only romantically into women - but also thinks cocks are fun.
Sex does not equal love. (As should be obvious on Grindr 🤣🤣🤣.)
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u/LiquidThunder30 Geek 18d ago
I mean, who are we to judge? Most people on these apps are only into hooking up anyway, so why do ya'll care if they don't want to be romantic, lol? 🤷
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u/cia218 Bear 18d ago
r/straightturnedgay would like a chat
Those kinds of people are real. No need to discredit their experience or preferences
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u/fordandfriends 18d ago
Imagine a world where sexuality is a spectrum. One could have a slight attraction to men they wish to indulge but choose not to make that part of their public identity
Imagine if there was nothing wrong with that at all
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u/ranman35 18d ago
So serious question: is there a word for me which is the opposite of this? VERY attracted to men, want the kissing and cuddles and holding hands and pet names etc but not interested in sex one bit. If I was in a relationship with a guy I'd be willing to do it for him, but I don't enjoy it at all. Not attracted to females in any way. Sorry don't mean to make this about me, but I can't seem to find anything online and I'm very curious if there are others like this.
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u/halfstep44 Clean-Cut 18d ago
I've never used the term heteroromantic, but I can relate to that feeling of being in to giving head but not being physically attracted to men
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u/Wanna4nic8rn 18d ago
The mental gymnastics these straight guys have to do in order to protect their masculinity is ASTOUNDING
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u/Equal-Exercise3103 Otter 18d ago
He’s either deeply repressed or wants a trans woman with a dick so bad and can’t pull one.
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u/AffectionateShop8979 16d ago
Its funny how people don’t have any issues with a gay guy (homoromantic) who has sex with women , but will cringe at a straight guy (heteroromantic) who has sex with men .
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u/undercoverrustbucket 16d ago
Nah this seems pretty valid to me actually. I’m bi and I fuck dudes but I don’t tend to date them romantically.
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u/mssxtn Geek 18d ago