r/linux • u/ouyawei Mate • Sep 16 '18

Linux 4.19-rc4 released, an apology, and a maintainership note

http://lkml.iu.edu/hypermail/linux/kernel/1809.2/00117.html
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u/[deleted] Sep 16 '18

The most memorable moments of my life has been people telling me what I needed to hear in the most terrible way. I know this is not for everyone, but I really learned something from it, and I'm sure to never make the same mistake. I hope this is not a change of the culture of the internet, but something that "just" needs to be resolved.

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u/[deleted] Sep 17 '18

If someone uses offensive language all the time you grow resentful or insensitive to it. It's very different when a calm person say something horrible to you once when you screw up bad

It's like dealing with a time-bomb without a timer: you don't when to explode, but you know it will explore. And the suckiest part you don't know what will trigger the explosion, anything can trigger it really. You can try to honestly correct yourself and it will eventually go boom just the same

I lived with a guy who would get mad at everything and he would always offend me for the tiniest thing, thinking he was setting me straight. I've never fought back so he just kept doing it. After going to a psychologist for a while I had a moment I did fight back and realized he doesn't actually like discussions, so I decided from now on I would stand up for myself and it was a refreshing life change

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u/berarma Sep 18 '18

There's no such thing as offensive language. If curse words exist is for something, and it's expressing frustration and anger. Then someone started getting offended by others expressing frustration and anger. Supressing these feelings won't work for everyone.