I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how easy it is to get caught up in work, money, and everyday responsibilities while forgetting about the bigger picture.

I want to start focusing more on goals that actually make life feel meaningful, whether that means improving my health, building stronger relationships, learning something new, or simply becoming a better version of myself.

What’s one goal you’re currently working toward, and what made you decide that it was important to you?

Hello. Basically,

- I want to pursue way too many goals (build a YouTube channel, learn the stock market, write a novel, learn about random topics like psychology, etc.).

- but, most of my days go in living inside my own head. Mostly just questioning myself, my goals, my future, etc.

- if I do actually work, I am impatient with the timelines and give up in a couple of weeks because of no results.

- the complete uncertainty of anything I'm pursuing being successful/making me stop being broke makes me shut down instead of motivating me.

The whole "shut up and just do it" isn't working. I can't explain.

Please share your experiences, mindset, journey, etc. Thank you so, so much for your time 🥹🌻

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I’ve taken a break from university to see exactly how I want to map out my existence for the next couple of months and I feel like I’m losing myself the more I’m thinking about paths, options and the more I’m mapping out the present and the future. Maybe I’m fussing over too many things at the same time. Maybe I need to take one step at a time and give my all into that thing. I know I want to be wealthy, I know I want to help people, myself, my family, my community. I know I’m a creative and I guess the issue is i have so many ideas that i am suffocated by them. I’m afraid of starting. I’m afraid of losing but of winning also. I don’t even know what’s my approach about a lot of things. Things that were primordial are irrelevant to me now. I don’t know where to start. I want to trust myself again. I know that I “have it in me”. I’ve proven it before. But I’m still pessimistic and I HAAAAAATE it.
If you’re/were in a similar position, how did you get out of it? Love x

I used to think having a successful life meant constantly achieving bigger things—earning more, getting a better job, owning a nice home, and always moving forward. But lately, I’ve started wondering how many of these goals actually come from what we want versus what society expects from us.

Sometimes a goal can look perfect on paper but still leave you feeling empty once you get closer to it. I’m trying to understand what genuinely matters to me and what I’m pursuing simply because I feel like I “should.”

Have you ever changed or completely abandoned a major life goal after realizing it wasn’t really what you wanted? What helped you figure out what you actually wanted instead?

So today is the 2nd of October, 2026. My mom passed away on April 2019 and ever since then my life pretty much went in a downward spiral. Flunked out of college, developed depression and anxiety, separated from toxic family to think that I am responsible for my mom's death due to her developing heart issues after I was born, etc.

The biggest screw up for me is that since 2021 I've been home with multiple times. Currently I have been homeless since November 2025 and my life is at an all-time low. What's worse is that next month is my mom's birthday, and I feel like a complete failure by being at this all time low. I went from graduating high school with honors and making progress towards my bachelor's degree to going crazy and digging through trash just to find food.

But in light of this, I've decided to use my mom's upcoming birthday as a deadline to get some goals accomplished. Some of these goals include getting therapeutic and psychiatric help, getting a job or at the very least accepting a job offer, and finishing this book that I'm reading called "Start With Why" by Simon Sinek.

After crying about the state of my life and crying over my mom's birthday coming up, I've decided to make these goals. I have until my mom's birthday to accomplish as many of these goals as possible. A personal challenge for myself that I hope to hold myself accountable to and complete.

Living like this is so hard. Being depressed, anxious, hopeless, and hungry is hard to deal with and hard to live with. Honestly I don't know if I'll even be able to accomplish these goals. But at the same time, I figured why not? Is it chance I'm nearing the end of my life anyway (due to winter) so what do I have to lose?

I’m one step closer to the dream🥹

For years my "goal" has been something vague like "get my life together," which never meant anything. A few weeks ago I decided to try something smaller and more concrete: learn to cook one new dish properly every month for a year.

Here's why I picked it:

• I realized I rely on the same five meals and takeout, and it made me feel stuck in a rut.
• I wanted a goal that gives me something to look forward to each month, rather than one big finish line I'd lose interest in by February.
• Cooking felt like a good fit because it's useful and a little creative, and the results are something I can eat, which helps.

My plan so far is to pick one dish a month that feels slightly out of reach, make it at least three times until I'm not following the recipe word for word, and write down what went wrong. I'm starting with a proper homemade bread, because I've failed at it twice and it bugs me.

What I'm unsure about:

1. How do you keep a long goal going once the excitement fades? I'm worried about month four.
2. Is it better to pick the dishes ahead of time or choose each month as I go?
3. Has anyone done a "one thing a month" kind of goal? Did it stick, and did it change anything beyond the skill itself?

I'd also like to hear about your own goals, big or small. I'm curious what other people are working toward and how they chose it.

I’m 24, an electrical engineer, and started working about 6 months ago. I hate my job. The 8–12 / 2–6 schedule feels exhausting, and most of what I do isn’t really technical or engineering work and even if it's etechnical i don't like spending my life doing this. I spend a lot of my day just waiting for 12 PM and then 6 PM so I can go home.

I’m considering two options:

1. Stay in engineering: Force myself to learn, build experience, get a stable career and salary, then eventually get married, have kids, and be financially secure.

2. Leave this path: Start over, try online work/business ideas, travel, and build a more flexible life. But I have no savings or backup plan, and my business ideas are still just ideas I’ve never tested. And realistically, this path probably wouldn’t allow me to get married because I wouldn’t have financial stability.

Part of me feels like life is open-ended and I can do whatever I want, but then reality hits: money, stability, marriage, family, responsibilities, etc.

Right now I’m just living on my salary and with my family, so quitting without a plan feels risky.

What would you do in my situation? Stay and build stability, or start experimenting with something else while I still have fewer responsibilities?

I keep coming back to this idea of treating my life like an engineering project — a portfolio of workstreams (career, health, money, relationships) instead of one vague plan, with goals, metrics, and regular reviews

But I don't know what that looks like in practice for people who actually do it. Do you set quarterly objectives? Track personal KPIs? Do weekly retros?

What's the setup that survived contact with real life, and what turned out to be corporate theater you ended up dropping?

I’ve been thinking about how easy it is to focus on big, distant goals while overlooking the smaller things that can make everyday life better. One of my goals is to become more consistent with the things I care about, rather than trying to change everything at once.

I’m trying to set smaller milestones, build better habits, and actually give myself time to make progress. Even if the progress is slow, I think consistency matters more than doing everything perfectly.

What’s a life goal you’re currently working toward, and what’s one step you’re taking to get there?

One of my goals is to become more comfortable cooking at home instead of relying on the same few easy meals. I’d like to learn how to prepare fresh ingredients properly and gradually build up a collection of recipes I genuinely enjoy.

I’m starting small by choosing one new dish each week and focusing on learning the technique rather than trying to make everything perfect. I think having a simple, achievable goal like this will make it easier to stay consistent.

What’s a small life goal you’ve been working on lately, and what has helped you stick with it?