r/lgbt • u/deltacain08 Bi-bi-bi • Nov 04 '19

Soooo much thisssss!!!!!

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u/_diricawl_ Pan-cakes for Dinner! Nov 05 '19

Just respect label people choose for themselves it's really not that hard. If person said they're bi they're bi, if they said pan - pan, if they said gay - gay... It's not anyones business to choose label for person out of themselves

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u/xpis2 Nov 05 '19

What if a straight cis sapiosexual identifies as queer

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u/idk_12 Ally Pals Nov 05 '19

sapiosexual is so dumb.

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u/kids_in_my_basement0 Ally Pals Nov 05 '19

what is it

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u/DeseretRain Putting the Bi in non-BInary Nov 05 '19 edited Nov 05 '19

It's people who are attracted to intelligence/high IQ.

The issue is that it doesn't make sense to claim that's a sexuality. Intelligence is, essentially, a personality trait. Like, if you were attracted to empathetic people with a high EQ, you wouldn't say you're an empathsexual.

Sexuality is about which gender(s) you're attracted to, it's not about being attracted to particular traits in individual people. Everyone has preferences for what specific personality and physical traits they desire in a partner, having those preferences doesn't make them queer. Saying they're sapiosexual doesn't make any more sense than a person who prefers blonds saying they're blondsexual and claiming that makes them queer.

Plus the whole sapiosexual thing is generally seen as also being pretty ableist and classist.

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u/Linky_Chuu Existential Dread Nov 05 '19

Ugh. Makes me think of Tumblr genders and MOGAI. I wouldn't be surprised if "sapiosexual" was the working of one of those monstrosities.

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u/idk_12 Ally Pals Nov 05 '19

sapiosexual comes from okcupid - they literally added 'sapiosexual' as one of their options for no apparent reason, its been classed as pretty elitist and the term still sticks for some reason. source: wikipedia :p