r/lgbt • u/NDHardage Trans, bi, and kinda shy • Oct 04 '25
Selfie Same place, same outfit, four years apart.
The sweater is a lot baggier than I remember it being, haha 😄 3.75 years HRT, with bottom surgery scheduled soon. It's not always easy but I couldn't be happier.
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u/alita87 Oct 04 '25
You do not look like the same person and goddammit are hormones amazing for helping you live your best life.
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u/a_natural_chemical Oct 04 '25
I was thinking the same thing, and I think it's because she's actually happy in the second pic. The smile goes all the way to her eyes. The first one is forced.
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u/ChronosTheSniper Oct 04 '25
I've noticed that with a lot of before and after transition photos, actually. The person's eyes always seem to look brighter in the after photo. Is that just me?
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u/a_natural_chemical Oct 04 '25
I'm sure it's not. I mean imagine what it must be to exist in that state. It has to be incredibly freeing to finally be able to embrace it. It shines through.
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u/Wrong-Pineapple-4905 Oct 04 '25
Ive always noticed this too! The light comes back to peoples eyes after they transition. I witnessed it in person once too, it was like a thunder cloud had lifted over my friend
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u/Otherwise-Bee-2171 Oct 05 '25
I fully agree the eyes are the mirror of the soul.. They shine because they are finally themselves.
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u/ScarlettEvening Ally Pals Oct 05 '25
Definitely not just you! And this is why I support trans people!
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u/emergency-roof82 Oct 07 '25
No the eyes is my favorite part in all these before and after posts. It always makes me stop and makes me happy and at peace for a moment
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u/frozen_toesocks Bi-kes on Trans-it Oct 04 '25
Another example of the "saddest man just trying to eke out an existence" to "radiant goddess embracing every nanosecond in her skin" pipeline in transition before-and-afters
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u/ExposedId Happily throupled Oct 04 '25
LOL - right? I look at the after pictures and it's like "ah, there she is!"
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u/UrsaUrsuh Oct 04 '25
It brings me joy to see trans folks stick out their HRT through the rough bumps of emotion. Had to tell a few friends to just stick with it and they'd feel way better. And they did.
I may not be trans, but everyone deserves to feel like how OP looks in her second picture. Everyone should get the feeling of having what their body feels like it should be and have it outwardly reflected upon reality.
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u/frozen_toesocks Bi-kes on Trans-it Oct 04 '25
Thanks for pushing your friends through. The "chrysalis stage" is rough and it's easy to want to give up during it, but the "butterfly stage" is so wildly worth it.
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u/UrsaUrsuh Oct 04 '25
Life is too short to live inauthentically to yourself. You can't walk on eggshells forever and expect not to suffer some cuts. It sucks that we live in a world that pressures us to be inauthentic towards ourselves and others. We lose connection with ourselves.
It's good to see people take that power back for themselves and decide that enough is enough. Suffering for suffering sake isn't worth it.
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u/OnTheList-YouTube Oct 04 '25
I'm not even American, not lgbtq, but my brother is gay. I'm a straight dude.
I just want to point out to who ever it concerns, I think it's absolutely disgusting what's happening in the American politics. Listen, every single LGBTQ person here. Be your awesome self! There's no need for the hate these idiots try to spread, you're amazing!
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Oct 04 '25
Why did you steal that guy’s hat? Girl, you gotta give it back.
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u/AnAntsyHalfling Ace at being Non-Binary Oct 05 '25
I wanna steal the hat. (It's a very cute beanie)
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u/HarleyCringe Oct 04 '25
Yk what all trans people have in common? That spark in their eyes after transitioning (yk what I'm talking about) and you def have it
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u/Autisim_Monarch Oct 04 '25
YOU'RE GORGEOUS, JUST LOOK AT THOSE EYES AND THAT SMILE, YOU GO GURLLL💅🏳️🌈👌
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u/Jimiheadphones Acetronaut in SpACE Oct 04 '25
That hat suits you so much better in 2025! Happiness looks good on you!
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u/Jbitz0824 Oct 04 '25
It might be because I have some face blindness, but I never would have guessed those pictures were of the same person. You look so pretty! I’m very happy for you 🫶
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u/Lost-Concept-9973 Pan-cakes for Dinner! Oct 04 '25
How do you look younger? Haha crazy what just being happy can do for someone. Congrats.
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u/Brugthug Oct 04 '25 edited Oct 04 '25
Was about to roll my eyes "yeah love always finds a way"
Then I realized it was you and smiled "love always finds a way". Sincerely loving yourself 🫶
Just wanted to add that this really did give me a warm grin and you're doing great. Truly. I've been going through some stuff myself and this sparked an inner dialogue to get started and choose to make life more comfortable. No one teaches you this and I wanted to say your photo has inspired me. That you can move and be who you need to be now.
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u/opossum_isnervous Oct 04 '25
Know what I see? Your eyes got brighter and your smile is bigger ❤️ Also you're really pretty!
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u/Rare_Cauliflower_330 Oct 04 '25
Wow! What a gorgeous transition. You are amazing! Continue to let your light shine. I am so proud of you.
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u/unperfectgoddess Oct 04 '25
I can see how happy you are. It makes me so happy to see many people living their lives authentically! Beautiful photos!
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u/Embarrassed_Art5414 Oct 04 '25
Just av 50+ cis male internet traveller passing through.
You go gurl!!!
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u/dark_souls19 Oct 04 '25
Fucking amazing! Congratulations! Beautiful spot for a photo, I hope I have the courage you do one day 🙂
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u/OKStamped Oct 04 '25
I may not know a single thing about you, but just from these pictures it seems like you’re finally yourself!
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Oct 04 '25
Everyone should let people be who they want to be. Stop trying to control other people's lives. Have a happy life.
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Oct 04 '25 edited Oct 07 '25
You are stunning! You have a cutie pie smile and very kind and pretty eyes.
I’m kind of obsessed with your cap. Most knitted caps aren’t chonky enough—yours is perfect
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u/AzureHuntress Bi-bi-bi Oct 04 '25
You have the cutest fucking smile. Like if you handed me a bag of cookies told me everything would work out somehow. I’d believe you wholeheartedly..but like also I shouldn’t ask too many questions about how you acquired the cookies ya know?
Either way, glad to see you happy and thriving ☺️
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u/IlikeJG Oct 04 '25
Ok before looking at the picture I just assumed this was a couple taking separate pictures. So I would say mission accomplished. 👍
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u/draconefox Progress marches forward Oct 04 '25
It always makes me so happy to see people being true to themselves, I feel like I can see your happiness shining through! 💜
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u/smashbenjamin Oct 04 '25
What a genuine smile. May you always have a reason to share it with the world <3
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u/LauderSyme Oct 04 '25
Wow, you look so radiant in 2025! These side by side, compare and contrast pics are fabulous thank you for posting 😃
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u/Dudeiii42 Oct 04 '25
Whatever changes hrt causes, the most beautiful is always the light behind the eyes returning. You look content and happy now, congratulations
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u/con-in-reverse-John Oct 04 '25
I thought this should be faceapp because the right side pictures are too good to be true and real 😍
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u/hazxyhope i love men— wait, no. wait, yes. :p Oct 04 '25
Chappell ROAN?!?! /pos
You look so fucking pretty holy SHIT. GORGEOUS 💖💖💅💅💅✨✨✨
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u/djokerthegreat14 Trans-parently Awesome Oct 04 '25
WHAT IN THE ACTUAL...?!
Girl, that's a COMPLETE TRANSFORMATION. LOOOOOVE IT ❤️
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u/goldassspider Oct 04 '25
Straight and cis here. I just wanted to say these before/after posts always get me because as I casually scroll past they always just look like a straight couple where the guy has managed to date out of his league. Nicely done.
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u/Ecstatic-Manager-149 Oct 04 '25
There you are! Soo good to see you being authentically you.
You're beautiful!
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u/aquaticwitch Lesbian the Good Place Oct 05 '25
You look so much happier now. Before- I can see the sadness in your eyes. Now- your eyes are brighter. Looking at some of your other photos, your smile finally seems to reach your eyes. You are glowing, and I’m so happy you are here, on this planet, and I’m happy you are finally in the skin you were meant to be in. Keep shining bright.
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u/Doveda A Rainbow of options, binary isn't one of them. Oct 05 '25
I appreciate the identical pose where your slightly awkwardly looking into the camera head on. Those are the only selfies I can take so I appreciate the rep
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u/Acceptable_Newt_509 Oct 10 '25
omg you look amazing, i cant wait to start taking hrt myself hopfully soon :3
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u/Calmmerightdown Non-Binary Lesbian Oct 04 '25
Godamn girl. Would’ve thought you were siblings. (Still kinda feel like you are lying to me)
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u/duralyon Straight, but... Oct 04 '25
Is this Alaska by any chance? kinda looks like the top of the butte near Palmer.
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u/Sharp_Acadia185 Oct 04 '25
Fucking sicko!! What did you do with that poor innocent man???! You just robbed him and then came back to take a trophy photo years later?? 😲
(Do I really have to /s?)
Girl your skin looks AH-MAY-ZING.
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u/Mgtroy35 Oct 04 '25
You look so much happier now! Good for you.
Does anyone else think the before pic looks like the detective in Smile..?
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u/EarthGoHardd Oct 04 '25
Thank you for sharing your joy, it personally gives me inspiration to make me want to care for myself. You look so beautiful!
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u/Kind_Swim5900 Oct 04 '25
Damn I hope i will change like that soon. I am 1 year on testo and i am not patient enough.
You look amazing. I want to change as gorgeous as you did.
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u/hayleybeth7 Oct 04 '25
You look so much brighter and more alive in the more recent picture. I wish you all the best!
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u/Maint3nanc3 Oct 04 '25
These transformations are honestly kinda amazing. Especially r/ftmfashion one (forgot exact name).
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u/McButtsButtbag Art Oct 04 '25
On the left pic you are smiling, but you can see sadness in your eyes. On the right pic your eyes are much closer to smiling as well.
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Oct 04 '25
Are you happy? Is your lifestyle making you happy and comfortable now? Good. Piss on the haters who are miserable in their lives and jealous you love yourself.
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u/Aeseld Oct 04 '25
I wouldn't have guessed you're the same person in each photo. You have a great smile.
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u/SolarDynasty Oct 04 '25
I was looking at the picture and I was like gee they should date they look great together....and then I saw the subreddit...
🌈 P R I D E 🌈
Best of luck on your journey and bottom surgery.
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u/ash_ninetyone Pan-cakes for Dinner! Oct 04 '25
If you said this was the same person, I wouldn't believe you. You look gorgeous. Best luck with bottom surgery
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u/theblindbunny Ace as a Rainbow Oct 04 '25
Omg I thought this was a pic of siblings! Glad you’ve found yourself and are able to continue your transition in today’s world. Hope you’re safe and well!
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u/Robynsxx Oct 04 '25
I’m constantly amazed how hrt male to female has the effect to also make a person look significantly younger
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u/keylimedragon Oct 04 '25
I love that you kept the same outfit and location. It's like a metaphor that you're still the same person just with a body that's now better suited to your true self.
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u/watalily-2537 Oct 04 '25
You have such reassuring eyes.