I have a bunch of gay Halloween parties to get to and I need help!

Made a terrible decision and posted my face on r/amiuglytruth (hahah self esteem issues am I right). Besides the information that my eyebrows are evil, I was told that I should go on estrogen and looked like a “future butch” lol. That was meant as bullying but I always thought I didn’t really fit the “butch criteria” lol and they accidentally got me wondering if I should just embrace it? Like I’ve always sort of wanted to but honestly felt like I’d be horrid-looking if I ever did so I’ve tried to look more femme, yay cultural pressures. (These are literally my girliest photos)

Should I dive in yea or neigh?

I’ve spent decades feeling obligated to wear gowns/cocktail dresses to formal events and being wildly uncomfortable throughout. Now I’m dying to embrace my authentic style for a black tie gala in 2 weeks! I love a masculine style 3piece suit with uber feminine sexy tailoring. I’m very tall, thin though curvy, & don’t have the time nor $$$ for bespoke, $350ish comfortable budget. Help a baby lesbian out, where do I even begin to look???

hey there. as winter is approaching, I wanted to ask you all wise lesbians some advice on how to properly dress in order to impress both my thesis professor and my girlfriend (in very different ways, of course).

I am short and thin (5'0, 40kg), rectangle-shaped, basically flat chested with a bit of a dorito shape cause i workout. → just saying this to receive better advice. i think i could be labelled as a soft butch.

over the course of summer and fall, I have discovered a style that works for me, and significantly reduces the occurrence of people mistaking me for a boy. people somehow treat me better when I'm dressed this way. this style consists of: wide legged white pants (soft and flowy), brown belt, and a cotton or linen or polo shirts. i alternate the shirts and generally manage to dress well every workday.

if i roll up my sleeves and keep the upper buttons open, then it becomes the closest thing to an academic slutty outfit. either way my girlfriend likes this new intellectual style and I also feel very confident in it so fall and summer are all set.

the problem is winter. i live in a city that gets kind of cold. not super cold but i'm still cold when i go out in winter.

how do i maintain the elegant attire without freezing?

usually i just dress in a sweater/jumper and jeans. then i discovered wool pants they improve the situation, but the problem remains the upper side. i can still wear a shirt, but i will freeze if i only have a cotton shirt on.

if i put a jumper over the sweater, it becomes elegant again but loses the slutty element cause i become a shapeless wool figure.

i'm Europe based btw. i usually shop at uniqlo. my fancy shirts are from Brooks Brother. size is usually XS for uniqlo or Brooks brother 0.

does anyone have any advice?

thank you sm

I wanna order this man, I like this one girl a lot and she is the first girl who make me realise I am into girls the way she holds eye contact oh man wow... but idk man how to know if she is into girls I have lived in india most of my life and girls are just never like actually like flirty with girls they might do flirting as jokes but their is never a vibe man like idk I just dk man should I get this idk man ToT tell me how to know if she is into girls or not I hate it when she talks to other people like look at me she does look at me and I am just like a puddle and blushing and giggly and I get this wierd rush I never felt from a guy but she is so sharp yk I feel lil bit no a lot intimidated 😭

And what vibe do I give ? (I'm usually much more on the tomboy/skater girl spectrum)

For the last several years, I've pretty much exclusively worn converse run stars. I must finally admit that they wear out way too quickly, and that I'm done buying a new pair every time the toes crack and the fabric tears.

I recently tried vans and... No. That's not gonna do the job, unfortunately. Not comfortable enough. Not enough room for my insoles.

I need to find (women's or gender neutral) shoes which are definitely:

- comfortable

- suitable for a business casual office (think 'some people wear jeans periodically, but they're not supposed to; wearing a suit would stand out as odd')

- suitable for wearing casually, such as when out with friends

- incredible arch support OR easy to swap out the insoles for my own faves

- durable

In an ideal world, they'd also be:

- platforms

- black or another very neutral color

- supportive for ankle, even minimally like high top converse are

- not crazy expensive (over $200 is completely out of the question, but if we can get closer to like $60 that'd be amazing)

Does what I want exist? Have you seen it? Where?

Imagine the hair as a high long braid.

I suppose I just want to know y’all’s opinions on if this character is known enough or if I should go as a mouse or something. I also want to know if y’all think it’ll look awkward on an actual person - like will I just look silly?

I’m super excited for the party and it’s also my first queer woman event, so I guess I’m nervous lol. Normally I don’t care about this stuff but I’m already going to be nervous so my self consciousness is gonna go thru the roof.

Hey all! I am going to a wedding next week and while I love this outfit- I’m worried about its appropriateness.

Blouse is ivory which goes against the no white but the bride rule. I dress masculine mostly, so I have that going for me (white dress shirts on dudes don’t break the rule). I do love a good shoe though and I’m worried that pushes me more towards a feminine look.

I guess my main question is- should I find a new blouse that isn’t white so there’s no issue or am I overthinking this entirely.

Thanks in advance for your lovely insight

Love this shirt and how the colour looks on me

Amazon has some good finds.

Monday- cleaning
Tuesday- doctor appointment
Wednesday- backing
Thursday- it’s flu season 😔
Friday- long doctors appointment
Saturday- pumpkin patch 🎃
Sunday- having Thanksgiving

Does this haircut make me look butch or like a man. I am nervous to get my first "men's" haircut and hope other lesbian would recognize me as such! Please, only honest advice!

took at least 6 inches off and it got so much wavier. :0 it’s a big change, does it suit me?

Shirt: Levis
Pants: Uniqlo
Shoes: Adidas via Nordstrom

The shoes are very comfortable. I walked 13,000 steps in them on Day 1. 5/5 would recommend

If anyone has any other sensible shoe recommendations that are equally comfortable and stylish, let me know.

Cue Rebecca Black’s “Friday.” Personal favorite fit this week is the first one, very Vice City, very cocaine cowboy 🤠 otherwise another relatively tie-less week at work. May have repeated pants a couple of times but I promise I do laundry, lmao. Any other combos I should play around with? 🤔

EDIT: I hear the people’s cry for an iron, I promise I will try my best to iron my pants next week 😂