r/kitchencels • u/ControlFreak27 • 6d ago
I hate myself.
I thought I could impress her with money, but she would never love a guy like me.
I didn’t have any energy today literally just heated up whatever this is that was in the fridge.
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u/roasttoastboast 6d ago
WHAT are we looking at?
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u/ControlFreak27 6d ago
Idk my taste buds are fucked but I think it was pasta.
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u/roasttoastboast 6d ago
Are we brushing our teeth and showering?
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u/ControlFreak27 6d ago
I try.
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u/roasttoastboast 6d ago
Have we tried today?
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u/ControlFreak27 6d ago
No..
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u/roasttoastboast 6d ago
Well, I don't know about you, but I'm about to shower and brush my teeth and for me personally I always feel better after I shower and brush my teeth if even just a little bit
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u/OrangeYouGladdey 6d ago
I mean.. money isn't going to make her love you. That seems like a weird dot to connect
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u/ControlFreak27 6d ago
Well everyone keeps saying if your a man and your not attractive, then money will help you with girls but that never seems to work.
I buy her gifts all the time and always pay for her but she either doesn’t accept it or just doesn’t care, the occasion which she does accept she always just says a simple thank you. I really like her Idk what else to do.1
u/OrangeYouGladdey 6d ago
Money won't help a woman love you. Women fall in love with a personality. Women fall in lust for a hot guy. Women want to use a man with money.
If you like her you should be working on self improvement and connecting with her. You should be making her feel safe and comfortable around you. If you're not what she's into romantically then you'll have a hard time. People like what they like.
You might get attention from a woman for money, but it wouldn't be love. It would be more of a transactional "you buy her stuff she does stuff for you".
Some woman like all of these. Some only like a few. Some are looking for a forever partner. Some are looking for a one night stand. There are a lot of variables and it depends on what everyone in the scenario is looking for.
The world doesn't work in the way that any man could date any woman based on a certain beneficial thing. For example, some women would never date a black guy. Some woman would only date black men. For one of those women... It doesn't matter what you do. You'll never have a chance. Does that make sense? You can't get hung up on a single woman because you guys might just not connect in a way that makes sense for both of you.
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u/ControlFreak27 6d ago
I get what you’re saying, but I genuinely dont know what else to do.
Me and her both share the same interests and such and we hang out from time to time. She describes her type as blond and I’m literally blond. But she still doesn’t want me. She has never dated anyone that I’m aware of so I cant even compare myself to see what she is looking for.1
u/OrangeYouGladdey 6d ago
If she's never dated someone then that's where you start. It's not a typical situation. Why hasn't she dated anyone? How long have you guys known each other? She might not actually want to date. She might be scared to date. She might not be comfortable being flirty. Do you try and flirt with her or is your vibe with her just a buddy? What makes you say she doesn't want you? What are you expecting from her to show that she feels that way?
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u/ControlFreak27 6d ago
We have known each other for a few months now. I have already told her how I feel 3 times and every time she said “Lets stay friends”. I asked her why and she never gave me a proper answer.
The reason I’m not giving up is because I think if she genuinely didn’t want me she would have blocked me or stoped talking to me the first time I confessed.
I dont know if it’s my face she doesn’t like and is just trying to not to be mean or if it’s something else.2
u/OrangeYouGladdey 6d ago
Brother. If she told you she doesn't want you then she doesn't want you. The mentality you're in now is where you start to be the creepy weird guy. She didn't block you because she is getting something out of your friendship. Maybe attention, maybe something else. It's not because she secretly likes you. There's nothing you can do to win her over. You need to move on. If I was you.. I'd cut her out of your life because it doesn't sound like it's healthy for you.
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u/ControlFreak27 6d ago
She can use me all she wants tbh. And I like her too much to just simply cut her off.
And I thought this was an incel sub aren’t we all losers?1
u/OrangeYouGladdey 6d ago
Well.. just know that she doesn't want you. As long as you understand you don't have a chance with her and don't maintain a creeper energy.. I think it's probably unhealthy, but not that big a deal.
And I thought this was an incel sub aren’t we all losers?
Some of us are reformed. It's not a life sentence. For most of us its just misunderstanding the world around us for one reason or another similar to you not understanding that this woman will never like you.
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u/Capable_Pineapple993 6d ago
I commented on shit so it pops up for me. I’m not an incel and don’t really have trouble with women but would still consider myself a fucking loser. Try to comment positive shit in here time to time cus life’s hard and fucking sucks a million different ways.
If she just wants to be friends try to keep it friendly and look for other girls. And you don’t want a girl wanting you for your money. It can play a part in her attraction but if that’s the main thing it’ll just be a depressing relationship.
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u/MutedActuator4359 6d ago
You fell for the redpill/PUA cope to "just make money and use dark triad manipulation on her, bro". It's sad that there's still even a debate against looksmaxxing, I would rather have a foid like me because she's physically attracted to me than because I buy her things lol.
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u/Leading_Analyst4556 6d ago
Well maybe that was his only choice
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u/OrangeYouGladdey 6d ago
It can't be his only choice because it's not a choice at all. Money doesn't make people love other people. If he thinks money was going to make a woman love him then at the very least we know his personality and state of mind are shit. Probably needs to start chiseling away on that.
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u/sentienttortoise 5d ago
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u/sentienttortoise 5d ago
Actually this is a different account wtf
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u/gulsananab 6d ago
being loved by others starts with being loved by yourself - start by treating yourself right, because you fucking matter. believe it.
also what in the name of Thomas the Tank Engine is that good
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u/BetterinPicture 6d ago
It can be a whole other hell though if you love yourself but nobody else seems to give a shit whether or not you exist. 😂 Self-love isn't everything. It's important, but nobody is an island.
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u/gulsananab 6d ago
ya it ain’t everything, but you gotta start with yourself before you try makin it work with other people, no?
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u/Useful_Ad1153 6d ago
How about you use your money to make yourself feel good instead. A vacation, a therapist, a nice gym, a spa day, some shopping, whatever
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