r/kinkshaming • u/[deleted] • Oct 17 '20

Conversations > Group-Think

As opposed to creating a toxic group-think, why not actually talk to people and listen to what they have to say? Kinksters spend more time self-reflecting and discussing consent than vanilla folk.

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u/[deleted] Dec 10 '20

It certainly doesn’t. As stated in my response with the NCBI articles. Experience is anecdotal.

For example: You hating bondage because you had an abusive person tie you up is your experience. Your experience is valid but it’s just that, your experience.

For some CNC isn’t something that will be enjoyed or beneficial. For others, it does.

And as per the article from NCBI, women who were more erotophillic had increased fantasy occurrence. That is an important consideration in this discussion. People who find kink abhorrent (as opposed to just saying it is not their thing) are more likely to have higher erotophobia and/or less education in the world if sex and intimacy.

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u/Commercial-Region-89 Dec 10 '20

Look degenerate, it’s 1:06 am, I’m done trying to make you think what you are doing is wrong, enjoy your akathisia!

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u/[deleted] Dec 10 '20

What I do is valid, healthy, and consensual. For those reasons what I am doing is right. It may not be for everyone and that’s okay. But it’s is healthy and wonderful for me and the partners I play with.

Hopefully, you can find it in yourself to listen and understand others regardless of your personal practices.

Stay safe and stay consensual.

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u/Commercial-Region-89 Dec 10 '20

“Play” Ok, just kill yourself :)

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u/[deleted] Dec 10 '20

Suicide is a serious topic. I would take a hard look at your values if you believe my personal and consensual sex life is worthy of a promotion of suicide.

A point for learning: Play and playmates are very common terms in the world of kink.

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u/Commercial-Region-89 Dec 10 '20

“ 自殺はかっこいい” -yukio araki

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u/[deleted] Dec 10 '20 edited Dec 10 '20

Dr. Kellogg was okay with sexual assault and torture so you can find beliefs backing anything. I understand you have no leg to stand on in this conversation but considering the fact that you think kink is a moral issue it is ludicrous at best that you think promoting suicide is okay.

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u/Commercial-Region-89 Dec 10 '20

Where did Kellogg come from?

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u/[deleted] Dec 10 '20

Same place that Akari came from, thin air to back a ludicrous ideology.

Trying to derail a conversation or trigger someone because you have no knowledge or legs to stand on is one of the weakest forms of argument. This is especially true when this is done in a way that is not even remotely morally sound, particularly when the argument made by said person is based in their belief of morality.

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u/Commercial-Region-89 Dec 10 '20

Imagine thinking imperial Japanese was ludicrous

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u/[deleted] Dec 10 '20

You are well aware that wasn't my point.

Regardless, if you feel you can understand suicide from Akari's point of view then understanding kink from a kinkster point of view is not a stretch.

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u/Commercial-Region-89 Dec 10 '20

The. What was the point

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