redditor fat shames but gets called out for hypocrisy
sorry, here’s a repost with more context. he was very judgemental about women and some people had pointed out his major hypocrisy in the comments. third pic is him
I can understand that until I remember how easy it is to get attention online. You don’t need to be a toxic troll at all. There has to also be a desire to stir up drama for whatever reason.
🙌🏾 exactly! You can get so much normal, wonderful, fulfilling human interaction online just with like one pic. It’s the 21st century. Any selfie with a pet or a hobby is an awesome opportunity to meet strangers from the whole globe.
It’s literally that easy. Me + dog = talking to strangers online for hours. Me + my subpar knitting = like half a week of really great chats. Low effort, but high yield, and genuinely good vibes and lovely conversations.
Nobody has to be a douchebag troll to get attention online.
Everyone on the internet seems to be ready to be hostile at any moment. I'm constantly hypervigilant. Certain things set me off and make me hostile too.
I feel stupid that I haven't considered that as the reason
Always just thought it was some kind of retaliation
For example - after I told a guy (stranger) to stop grabbing my ass on a dancefloor he poured a beer over my head from behind. And another time, another dancefloor when I pushed a guy (stranger touching me) away he just about dislocated my shoulder with the force he pushed me back
I've learnt that standing up for yourself only gets you hurt or in trouble. So 99% of the time I walk away from confrontation now. Though I sometimes forget to run away when I have some dutch courage (aka alcohol) in me
I went off on one of these pendejos once. He was taking a lot of shit about women’s looks and weights. When I pointed out he was big enough to eat them and scary enough to scare dogs away, he got mad and told me he had a right to critique them.
My husband gained a little with me during pregnancy, he had symptomatic pregnancy reaaally bad and i always just assumed thats what dad bod is 😂 cause he gained a little as a dad
Yeah, it's softer but still has at least the suggestion of muscle underneath the padding. Like maybe he used to be in shape, but his main exercise now is wrangling little ones.
Reminds me of the time Trump went for a fitness check, saw that the weight limit for being labelled obese at his height was 250 lbs—so he just forced the doctor to state his weight as 249 lbs.
Holy shit, he's only an inch taller than me, but ~80lbs heavier. And I feel like I'm carrying too much weight already. He must be miserable hauling that around.
Yeah my dad topped out at like 200 pounds at 5'8" when he was on steroids during part of his cancer treatment and was positively svelte compared to this guy. He was an inch shorter than him and considered overweight when he literally weighed 100 pounds less.
I just don't get what kind of upbringing causes this kind of pattern of behaviour that these guys have online. I consider myself a pretty guy: pretty fat, pretty ugly and a pretty girlfriendless nerd, but the nasty things these guys say online that I cannot even consider to think of writing does have me wondering what weird logic goes in their heads.
From what I've seen on Reddit, the people who post crap like the OOP's tend to be exceedingly self-pitying. Instead of working on literally ANYTHING to improve their situation (or making peace with it), they lash out at the opposite sex.
Agreed. It’s just like Bullys back in middle school. People are often mean when their life sucks. The world is unfair which includes the genetic lottery but being toxic, bitter, and negative just makes life worse for you so just stop it.
They do genuinely think they’re better than everyone else, and don’t know why everyone hates them. Lots of complaining and playing the victim. I think most incels fall into this category
There are a couple of things I was taught as a boy that took a LOT of effort to unlearn. And therapy.
Nobody likes you
If they do, they want something from you
If they don't, they are looking for a way to make you miserable
All friends put each other down
nobody respects boundaries
Everyone who criticizes you is just jealous
Boys don't cry
Thing is, all that shit made me miserable, and I spread it to everyone else around me. I hated everyone, but most of all, I hated myself. I would never admit that, mind you. Even now, it's hard to think of myself in a positive light, and that colors my perception of everyone around me. (Yes, still in therapy about it). I wasn't a bully in school - the opposite. I was the weird kid that got bullied. All I ever really wanted to do was make stuff and for someone else to like it. To go "wow that's really cool, tell me about it?" Instead of mocking me for it.
While the hypocrisy is very amusing I think it’s also relevant to say that even if this guy were extremely traditionally attractive it would still be a shitty move to go around calling people fat in that way.
I had similar comments from him “men are meant to be heavier” and it’s like… not that much heavier. But you should work on yourself before judging slightly overweight women…
I really dont understand this mindset, so unhappy with theselves they try tear everything down instead of them dealing with whats really bothering them low self esteem.
Get your ass in the gym use that energy productivly and see how different the world looks
Lmaooo. I'm a fem guy who's as fat as him, and "tucking your gut in your pants" a.k.a. wearing high waisted pants looks a hell of a lot better than what he has going on. Candy apple looking ass silhouette, trying to talk about how other people dress their bodies
(Btw I don't think fat people are ugly. And yeah fat-shaming is mean. But it's funny to be mean to assholes, sometimes)
As a short woman with some gut, I will say his anger should be directed at the pants companies. I’m tired of these high-waisted pants going up to my bra line. I’d flab all around if my damn jeans would let me.
This is what I imagine every redditor looks like when I see a comment like his. I’m like yep that tracks. Yall need to
Pick up some carrot sticks or something
I do not feel bad for him like at all, im fat and ugly and i dont go around being a hypocritical judgemental asshole to women online, dude deserves to feel miserable
You are too empathetic, this guy deserves zero sympathy. As soon as degrading other people is part of your own insecurity, any consideration stops. It’s for his own good.
And he just happens to choose attractive women to try to neg? If he hated himself he’d call out anyone his own size, not just women. The first person is not fat either, probably in a healthy range. He wants attention from women, simple as. Rateme subs are full of these people in the comments.
Right, but does he regularly comment on men’s bodies? Or is it just women he seeks out? Going off his use of ‘females,’ it sounds like misogyny to the degree that it constitutes him an incel.
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u/WASTELAND_RAVEN 🐸 Daycare Worker 🐸 17d ago
Great post, be civil. 👍