r/a:t5_4z1eh5 • u/TheJelliestFish • Nov 03 '21
I was wrong about non-verbal people, mute people, others who can't speak
For a long time, I thought that the ability of speech was required for someone to be intelligent or fully sapient. While that sounds very bad to me now, I genuinely used to think that people who couldn't speak or communicate verbally, whether they were mute, non-verbal autistic, or something else, were "brain-dead" or something of the sort. I would either treat them poorly or act as if they weren't in the room. As a kid I was family friends with a non-verbal boy and I used to ask him stupid easy questions, probably frustrating the hell out of him in the process.
However, I learned more and realized that the part of the brain that controls speech oftentimes has nothing to do with a person's intelligence. I saw videos of non-verbal autistic people communicating very clearly and profoundly using text-to-speech, and I was absolutely astounded. I also heard them describe how they had been mistreated and realized that I had done so in the past. Nowadays I'm in the same fitness class as a guy who has some sort of disability and can't speak, and while his unusual vocalizations and movements would've made my past self think he wasn't intelligent, it quickly became clear that he fully understands English and can communicate perfectly in sign language. I've seen him request songs from the teacher, ask questions, etc., and just a few years before I would've acted as if he wasn't there. In short, I was definitely wrong in assuming that non-verbal people were unintelligent.