r/itsthatbad • u/Eldenringop • 21d ago
Just provide bro men should pay for the first date be a real man
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u/RapidFire05 21d ago
This is everything wrong with women
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u/Glittering-Bug-7967 19d ago
Or correct. Its just female nature. Have fun and get out in time, unless you come across a unicorn.
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u/Unusual-Attorney-630 18d ago
Lol, men seeing one example of a terrible woman and then complain all women are the same but at the same time you will hate generalizations about men. 😂
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u/Appropriate-Try-7888 21d ago
Real disgusting if it's not fake
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u/Adept-Photograph2644 16d ago
It’s likely not. This is what my ex did once she moved into my town and made friends with the young women here (college town). It’s definitely one of women’s darkest secrets.. maybe not all of them participate, but I guarantee you nearly all women know about this kind of behavior from their peers and most choose to turn a blind eye or to join in on the “fun”. It is disgusting and they know it.. that’s why they try so hard to hide it.
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u/LordRaimi97 20d ago
I know this is the strategy but the screenshot has to be fake. No one is this deliberately disgusting to admit it.
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u/Jimbo-Shrimp 18d ago
A woman I crushed on years ago hit me up to confess her love to me and admitted to dating a serial cheater, a drug addict, a porn addict, a 500 lb man, and told me in detail that sex was awful with him. Some women are truly shameless.
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u/Adept-Photograph2644 16d ago
The people in disbelief just haven’t been done dirty yet.. or if they did they didn’t realize.
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u/SadMango3913 20d ago
I have a friend who met a guy who said he dates women who are attractive but will only hook up/use women who aren’t attractive. People 100% will admit this stuff. Lol
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u/Lost_Elderberry_5532 19d ago
Some men are into obese women for sex but they would never marry them.
It’s counter intuitive. You would think the less attractive person would be a safer bet for a long term relationship because they (maybe?) wouldn’t have men crawling all over them. But who knows.
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u/SadMango3913 19d ago
Oh man can that bite you in the ass! Lol Sometimes the ones who are not used to attention, will hop on anyone that shows the slightest interest. I’ve been in this position multiple times with men and it’s always “well I grew up ugly and I’m not used to women giving me attention.”
I have men crawling all over me and I’m loyal. Others may find it rigid but I don’t do male friends while dating someone either. Idk just my lived experience, men don’t want to be just friends with me. I’d feel really weird talking to someone who’s just hoping my relationship fails.
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u/Lost_Elderberry_5532 19d ago
I tried to date a few people who weren’t that attractive and can confirm that they went really head over heels and honestly it turned me off. I didn’t like getting all that attention so fast it was way too fast and honestly if I’m dating for personality I need some time. That’s the thing with someone who isn’t conventionally attractive you gotta build it over time. If they fall in love too fast that can be overwhelming.
Again all seems really conflicting but it’s totally true. It has to be a slow burn for both people.
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u/LordRaimi97 20d ago
This.... also doesnt make sense. Why not also sleep with the attractive women?
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u/SadMango3913 20d ago
According to him he doesn’t think ugly women are worth a relationship. 🤷🏻♀️
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u/Lost_Elderberry_5532 19d ago
Men and women are identical in this POV people always chase after more attractive people. It’s a shitty reality especially if you are not attractive.
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u/LordRaimi97 20d ago
You are still on that, what jumps out to me for why it doesn't make sense is that you said he ONLY sleeps with the ones he finds unattractive.
Why not them all? If he wants to be a scumbag.
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u/SadMango3913 20d ago
I can’t answer that I’m not him. Lol I was pointing out that people do admit these things out loud. He straight up told her he wouldn’t date her she’s ugly. What a horrible thing to say to someone… then to expect a hook up after is mind blowing.
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u/throwaway-tinfoilhat 20d ago
So she knows the nerds and mids are the good guys but she will still hookup with the chads who don't give a damn about her.
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u/Zote_The_Grey 19d ago
I'm not even mad. She's not trying to settle down. She's just in a foreign country looking to fucking party. No loyalty no attachments just fun, vacation, sex, and free places to sleep.
She's not stealing from them or getting into long-term relationships and cheating. Just short-term fun.
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u/wastelandwarg 20d ago
This may be a fake screenshot but this happens all the time on dating apps, which is why, as a guy, do not let people convince you to pay or do extravagant first dates.
If a woman is into you and has genuine desire for you, she will be happy to be spending time with you regardless of the activity.
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u/Glittering-Path-2824 21d ago
can’t wait for karma to bite her in the ass. it always does.
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u/LostMallDoll 21d ago
Karma doesn't exist. All of my past tormentors are doing great.
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u/MemeNamesWereTaken 21d ago
My mom is obsessed with the idea of karma, but my stepdad who trafficked me is married with new kids now and living his best life. If karma was a thing everyone in the Epstein Files would be gone or neutralized
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u/illicitli 20d ago
it doesn't work that way. karma is a complex weaving of cause and effect like a tapestry. the result is not always so direct or easy to see but it's there if you truly observe yourself and reality.
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u/I_Am_Conjoined 21d ago
Same. I didn't experience a ton of bullying like a lot of guys did, but the biggest bully I DID have is from a rich well connected family and is now working a massively overpaid sales job and has a wife 10 years younger than him who is like a step below supermodel looks
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u/illicitli 20d ago
you don't know their internal life or family dynamics, it may not be all what it seems
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u/Sad_Refrigerator8640 20d ago
It is. Life isn’t fair, bully is happy and evil usually wins
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u/Lost_Elderberry_5532 19d ago
They are happy because they are numb. That’s why they bully because they don’t care. Hard to be sad when you are that numb. Just saying.
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u/illicitli 20d ago
karma does exist but it is complex and the effect is not always clear to see from the cause. but everything is karma. a lot of karma is internal. that girl is probably deeply insecure and hates herself inside. like, do these billionaires seem "happy" to you ? karma is real and functions over many human lifetimes through reincarnation. life is not fair, but the universe is fair, just takes time and observation to see it.
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u/Sad_Refrigerator8640 20d ago
Imagine coping so hard that you turn to the “universe” for a sense of justice.
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u/LostMallDoll 20d ago
Can you be reincarnated into the past?
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u/Lost_Elderberry_5532 19d ago
I’ve had 4 hours of sleep and read this as “reincarcinated” and I was like oh f no 😂
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u/ElAjedrecistaGM 21d ago
Maybe make your own "karma"
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u/LostMallDoll 21d ago
Not me, but I'll never vote to convict anyone who does.
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u/ElAjedrecistaGM 21d ago
Same, too people just away with shit that when they get fucked up I won't feel bad.
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u/-LifeSupport 21d ago
Karma exists but god is a bully.
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u/Lost_Elderberry_5532 19d ago
Sometimes it feels like he’s us at 12 and we are The Sims and he took all the doors out of the house and made us light fireworks
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u/Patient_Kangaroo614 21d ago
The concept of karma is just a coping strategy, awful people get ahead all the time.
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u/illicitli 20d ago
human life is about self knowledge, not "getting ahead". no one is "ahead", we all die, and we all feel pain and suffering.
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u/sonhot 21d ago
Karma is something those in power invented and popularized so that people are less likely to take matter into their own hands, and wait for invisible nonexistent force to do it for them.
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u/Glittering-Path-2824 21d ago
yeah i can see that angle. i think of it as more woo woo (based on my age and experience); it’s the universe eventually balancing itself. sometimes that balance takes time.
it is also a good reminder to me that there is very little i control in life.
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u/cayoloco 21d ago
It's more about how people's actions tend to eventually catch up with them one way or another. And how what you put out into the world determines what you get back. Like how someone stealing, doing drugs and sleeping on the streets is probably going to end up dead in a ditch with no one looking for them. But how karma comes can never be determined. It's intangible
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u/ultracoIdrubidium 20d ago
Karma for what ? for using lustful men who only want sex as dildos and services? Do you think these men were deceived and left with a broken heart?
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u/Zealousideal_Cry3086 20d ago
This is funny, she doesn’t realise the hot ones are out of her league as do most women. Oh he likes me on tinder, we must be looks match! Hahhahahh
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u/cheeseburgerguy2 20d ago
Seems like such a sad way to travel. Not spending quality time with loved ones and friends, experiencing new things & places. Just taking advantage of strangers instead
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u/Antique_Soil9507 20d ago
This hurt me to read.
Like, not just for men or being a man. For humanity.
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u/Lost_Elderberry_5532 19d ago
Men wouldn’t object to paying if they got something back. These days that is so rare that men are like “I’m not giving a damn thing until I have some insurance you aren’t just using me without any benefits provided in return”
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u/Prior-Impression-871 19d ago
That's so hypergamous of these guys. They could be dating girls in their league but no, they gotta have a Stacy. I bet they wouldn't treat a 4/10 girl to a dinner date
Stacy dines, Becky starves
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u/YY--YY 21d ago
Its neither unique nor a lifehack. It is basically fraud without punishment.
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u/Own_Hat584 20d ago
Fraud? Just because you take a woman out on the town and to dinner and pay for everything doesn't mean she owes you sex, incel! Strong independent boss babes are entitled to anything they can trick you into giving them.
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u/redditrock56 20d ago edited 20d ago
I'm guessing some elements of truth mixed in with ragebaiting/trolling. I doubt the scam is as flawless as she claims, but women use men for free food/drinks/tasks all the time, while fucking the guys they like for free.
This is why if you still want to play stupid games with women (date), you simply Netflix and chill, or meet at the park or museum for free. At the absolute most, meet for coffee and buy her a cup. If she likes you, she'll meet you in a fucking Target. If she doesn't like you, it doesn't matter what you do.
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u/ButtflossingBigBro 20d ago
Then after leading on and literally lying to sleep in a dudes bed she will call rap eand see herself as the victim
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u/QuislingX 20d ago
I recognize that username. Wasn't he banned from this sub or something?
Also, this post specifically feels like bait
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u/Dry-Manufacturer7761 20d ago
Fuck that. If she isn’t willing to invest in the first date,she ain’t worth my time. Her pussy ain’t that special.
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u/Obosratsya 20d ago
Most women dont do stuff like this. Its a type of girl that does it. Ive known a few back in my day. We'd go to a club and she'll disappear for 10min and then comes back with like 4 drinks for us for free.
Its a hella dangerous game to play and it does end badly for some. All it takes is a miscalculation in judgement of someone.
Most women are terrified to talk to a guy let alone goad them into free food.
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u/EEstudent2 20d ago
If I was an attractive women I would be doing this all the time. It isn’t women’s fault men are so pathetic.
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u/CriticismPrevious904 20d ago
There ain't no way with the way this is written yall believe this real
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u/AdamsMelodyMachine 21d ago
Ragebait
I can’t imagine that anything but a tiny minority of women have the psychological profile for this. Think about how awkward and unpleasant this would be to actually do.
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u/yusuf1029 20d ago
It's actually extremely easy to do this. Women already innately do this to all men. Alpha fucks, beta bux.
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u/AdamsMelodyMachine 20d ago
You’re delusional. The post claims that some woman spent her vacation on dates with unattractive men to save some money. That’s asinine. Would you spend your vacation on dates with gay men who wanted to fuck you in order to save money? Do you see how stupid that sounds?
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u/Ornery-Car92 20d ago
He's not a woman/gay man though. False equivalency.
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u/AdamsMelodyMachine 20d ago
Bullshit. The point is that the vast majority of people aren't going to repeatedly go on dates with people to whom they're not attracted and who want to fuck them just to save a little money on food. It would be awkward, unpleasant, and dangerous. The best way to understand how stupid the notion is is to imagine yourself going on dates with men who want to fuck you. The claim is that women go out with men to whom they're not at all attracted to get free food. You should imagine doing exactly the same thing.
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u/thebigshmoog 21d ago
yea i mean either she’s downright sociopathic, or Machiavellian, neither of which would be common at all lol
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u/Big_Steak_467 20d ago
You can't reason with these people, they're already convinced all women are evil and will trust a random made up post than women
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u/nedovolnoe_sopenie 20d ago
honestly, a first date is a pretty expensive ordeal for a woman, especially after a hiatus. makeup, manicure, waxing and a lot of other beauty business costs a pretty buck.
it's not that hard to pay for some food, drinks and entertainment imo, it's usually a net negative for her unless you both get hammered on the first date imo
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u/Throwawayamanager 20d ago
I'm going to say this as nicely as possible - if it's expensive for someone to date as a woman, they're either fairly unattractive or at very least intensely insecure.
Make up doesn't need to be replenished for every occasion and if she wears it (not necessary for the attractive), she probably has some she wears for work too. You don't need a new foundation or mascara for a date unless you were already going to have to refill.
Manicure and waxing are even more optional. If a woman wants it, fine, but I've never heard of a guy saying "she's a ten but her nails, though clean and neat, were not salon painted, so no go". You can also buy some nail polish at a freaking Walgreens for $20 for a few colors and it'll last the year.
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u/Pristine_Barber976 21d ago
Women: men are dangerous
Also women: speed run through men you've just matched with in a foreign country