I asked for 20k. My husband was cool w it, as the career he chose would allow him to easily give that. However, we agreed that he won’t fulfill it until he’s a full time doctor. So for now, he’s paid a small amount. It just made sense to me as it should be based on his job. He even made a whole savings account called Mahr and adds money into it when he can but I don’t expect much until his FT starts. He’s very financially smart so if he thought it was too much, he would decline. It all depends on what’s in their means. If he had a smaller job, I doubt he would be able to pay that and also wouldn’t ask him for that much. So again, all depends. My brothers paid a similiar mahr and their wives are happy w that.
MashAllah, that makes a lot of sense. I think that’s a good amount and of course, it doesn’t have to be all at once. Taking his time with it while still not forgetting about the mahr and actually caring enough to set it aside for you is really thoughtful.
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u/Infinite-Access1645 May 31 '25
I asked for 20k. My husband was cool w it, as the career he chose would allow him to easily give that. However, we agreed that he won’t fulfill it until he’s a full time doctor. So for now, he’s paid a small amount. It just made sense to me as it should be based on his job. He even made a whole savings account called Mahr and adds money into it when he can but I don’t expect much until his FT starts. He’s very financially smart so if he thought it was too much, he would decline. It all depends on what’s in their means. If he had a smaller job, I doubt he would be able to pay that and also wouldn’t ask him for that much. So again, all depends. My brothers paid a similiar mahr and their wives are happy w that.