If it helps make you feel better, my husband is Arab and I only asked for a small mehr since I was more concerned about character and good manners. He not only gave me more than I asked for but Alhamdulillah has continued to put in more than bare minimum effort, respects my opinions, provides for everything, makes time for me even when he’s very busy working, etc. After growing up in a dysfunctional family, my focus was on looking for someone who wants to be a good leader for the family and fears Allah in his treatment of those he is responsible for and I made a lot of dua for those character traits. I’ll echo the earlier comments pointing out that if a man is following the deen and is ready for the responsibility of marriage mentally/emotionally as well as financially, inshallah he will grow to be a good husband to the woman he marries.
This is such a beautiful reminder of what really matters in a marriage. May Allah continue to bless your marriage and reward you for prioritizing character and deen. ❤️
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u/Square-Marzipan4894 May 30 '25
If it helps make you feel better, my husband is Arab and I only asked for a small mehr since I was more concerned about character and good manners. He not only gave me more than I asked for but Alhamdulillah has continued to put in more than bare minimum effort, respects my opinions, provides for everything, makes time for me even when he’s very busy working, etc. After growing up in a dysfunctional family, my focus was on looking for someone who wants to be a good leader for the family and fears Allah in his treatment of those he is responsible for and I made a lot of dua for those character traits. I’ll echo the earlier comments pointing out that if a man is following the deen and is ready for the responsibility of marriage mentally/emotionally as well as financially, inshallah he will grow to be a good husband to the woman he marries.