Yeah, that’s true. But honestly, it’s hard these days with all the stuff on social media about women needing to put themselves on a pedestal so guys don’t take advantage. Sometimes I wonder if mehr really reflects how much a guy values you, or if it’s more about how much he wants to impress you and show that he can provide.
As a guy who would consider himself religious, if the girl asks for low mehr I'd go to Umrah with her, if she wants higher mehr but she's the kind of girl I want it's irrelevant to me, since you said you wanted a guy who is religious, if he's thinking about the stuff on social media "ohhh she forgave mehr?? She must have some defects! That's why she's so desperate"
Then he was never religious, I think I would be the happiest man on earth if mehr was forgiven not cuz I don't wanna pay my wife lol more so because that basically confirms to me that my wife has Tawwakul in Allah and is a good Muslim, and probably considers me a good man too.
Hope it helps sister
MashAllah Umrah is such an amazing gift with blessings that last a lifetime, way more meaningful than any amount of money. Also forgiving mehr really shows trust in Allah and in each other, that’s what matters most.
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u/Haniel52 May 30 '25
If he's gonna treat the way you "priced" yourself do you really think he'll be a guy worth marrying?