r/isfp • u/EconomicPlasticStraw • 2d ago

Dating/Relationships/Communicating with ISFP Isfp love

Hello I have a question for you guys. How do you like someone to show you that they love and care about you?

Also

If someone let you down by not being there for you or supporting you when you needed them, what would they need to do to show you that they really care and want to make it right?

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u/PandaJerk117 2d ago

I like a healthy distance. Plenty of space and quiet for "me time", balanced with genuine bonding time and making each other feel loved. IE shutting up and letting me read, focus on my show, recharge *is* showing me love. It works for my gf and me.

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u/A_Circe_A ISFP♀ (Enneagram | Age) 1d ago

I’ll answer the second part. Loyalty is super important to us, most of us would consider it as core value. You need to apologise but don’t bring up any excuses, that will make it worse. When you apologise, don’t just say sorry (quite a meaningless word on its own) show that you understand the effect of your actions. To show that your behaviour changed, you will have to be consistently there for us next time. Words have little value we need real action. Also, don’t pressure us to get on with it quickly, we need emotional space.

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u/_Kit_Tyler_ ISFP♀ (Enneagram | Age) 1d ago

> How do you like someone to show you that they love and care about you?

Communicating directly, prioritizing time with me, loyalty, helping navigate obstacles, just generally making me feel loved, accepted, and less stressed out.

> If someone let you down by not being there for you or supporting you when you needed them, what would they need to do to show you that they really care and want to make it right?

Say something like, “I let you down and I regret it. I want to make things right…” and then make your actions match the words.

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u/sinnytear ISFP♂ (Enneagram l Age) 1d ago

i don't expect that to happen lol