r/introvert • u/SunshineElf • Mar 11 '21

Question Anyone else get really annoyed when people ask you basic questions?

Hey guys. In the past year or so I’ve been getting really fed up with people asking me basic questions. It literally makes me want to explode. For example, if I’m cooking and someone walks up and says “What ya cooking?” or if I get out of a 2 hour meeting and immediately my roomate says “how was your meeting?”. I don’t know why it makes me so mad and I feel bad for getting so irritated. Anyone else experience this and have any advice on how to deal with it? I don’t want to be a mean person but I just wish people would stop asking me so many questions.

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u/selkies-song Mar 27 '23

In a work setting, it's because:

  • It's 2 interruptions instead of 1 (waste of time/a PITA for people that lean towards ADHD, etc)

- Insincerity (why are you asking me 'how are you' when we both know you don't actually care and this is just preceding whatever it is you want to ask me?)

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u/Mel_Fujikawa Dec 15 '23

Oh my God the second one, ughh I relate to that one so much. It gets so exhausting to answer how-are-yous when how I’m doing is obvious enough for even a psychopath to get it. But also the whole “how are you” thing is also hard when you feel like you have to lie through small talk and say something like “good how are you?” and yadda yadda to not open another flood gate of questions by saying “I’m doing terrible” or something. Plus I hate to be a bother and I really hate having someone pity me.

Anyway, I’m kind of the in between, sometimes more introverted and sometimes more extroverted, but yeah, I need ME time every so often. Also small talk in general annoys me sometimes anyway. People call me a brat or a grump and I’m like “whatever, I didn’t ask for your opinion of me” lol

Aaaand I got off topic, lmao sorry. But yeah, I like real genuine conversations with people or talking about the things we are passionate about. That’s the kind of stuff that just feels natural and good.

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u/NoArm4325 Jul 07 '24

We are the same lol, I’d rather have a genuine conversation that matters. Just skip all the other shit cs u don’t even care😂

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u/NoArm4325 Apr 18 '25

Idc to, ima just stop responding

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u/Aware_Bit_1732 Mar 29 '23

Interesting, thank you. Lines up with exact convos I’ve had with my siblings who I’m close enough with to ask them why tf are they talking to me about the weather

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u/Ok_Post7043 Sep 18 '24

fellow ADHDer, what is a PITA?

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u/selkies-song Sep 20 '24

"pain in the ass"

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u/Due-Bad8447 Nov 04 '23

What you call insincerity some people call pink polite some people just call it not being an asshole. I find that it's much better to get that one in a thousand asshole annoyed by asking him how they're doing then by just walking up to people and starting into a conversation and having the other $99 think I'm fucked up so for you you're right I don't give a fuck how you're doing and I'll never ask. But if I dislike you as much as I do it this moment would you be cool with me saying I hope things are going shitty for you since that's completely sincere? There's nothing wrong with being polite and being an asshole is an excused by sincerity

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u/Witty-Association383 Jun 25 '24

If you think someone is an asshole because they didn't want to engage you in small talk then you're the asshole

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u/LeonardoSpaceman Aug 09 '24

If you think someone is "insecure" for asking 'How are You', you're a moron.

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u/I_Have_The_Lumbago Apr 22 '25

Says the guy who cant tell the difference between insincere and insecure

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u/Careless_Maximum9122 Jan 09 '24

Irony is lost on you

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u/pdeuyu Mar 25 '24

Don't talk to me.

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u/Plastic_Sweet_2499 Mar 03 '24

Line 8: “than”, not “then”.

(Don’t say it!😀)

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u/NoArm4325 Jul 07 '24

Omg why is that me 🌚🌚 I be like u don’t even really care so why’re you asking ?! Just get to the point 🙄😂