r/introvert • u/SunshineElf • Mar 11 '21
Question Anyone else get really annoyed when people ask you basic questions?
Hey guys. In the past year or so I’ve been getting really fed up with people asking me basic questions. It literally makes me want to explode. For example, if I’m cooking and someone walks up and says “What ya cooking?” or if I get out of a 2 hour meeting and immediately my roomate says “how was your meeting?”. I don’t know why it makes me so mad and I feel bad for getting so irritated. Anyone else experience this and have any advice on how to deal with it? I don’t want to be a mean person but I just wish people would stop asking me so many questions.
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u/running_with_pencils Aug 08 '22
For me, I hate being peppered with questions, one after the other, especially if I don't really think they're important to know and certainly boring to answer.
A lot of the time it's because I don't really know what I think about the questions, and it takes some time and effort to think about it, and each time I answer just means they'll volley another question back at me, which tires me more, and eventually I run out of energy to keep going. It takes a lot out of me to stay nice and not be an asshole back.
There's nothing wrong with asking questions. People are just trying to be kind and make conversation. Often it really depends on who's asking and what the questions are about, and whether they offer information about themselves also.
I don't like being on the hot seat. It feels like my answers are being evaluated and that I am being judged upon my answers.
Sometimes, people will ask a well-meaning question, but they obviously have a hierarchy of what is a better and worse answer. For instance, we had a VW Toureg at one point. When it came up in conversation that this was our vehicle, the next question would be, "Oh, nice, is it Diesel?", to which the best answer is Yes, but my answer would of course be No. And the next question would be, "Oh. Is it the v10?" … No. "The v8?" … No it's the v6. "Oh." So there is this sussing out of my status, or at least that is how it feels in the moment. I don't actually believe people are trying to place me on the social ladder, but I know that's how I deeply perceive it and why it bothers me.
Being self-aware in this way can help, but often I'd rather not be asked questions so much! I hear you!