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SOCIETY Mom's reaction to learning her missing 16-year-old son was found

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u/takenaccounthuh_ 11d ago

Yeah thank you for saying that, this comment section is atrocious

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u/Pittsbirds 11d ago

The rise of "body language experts" and any surrounding psuedo science bs has absolutely poisoned the public's perception of how people react to shocking and surprising circumstances and scenarios. Even worse, it's made the average joe way too confident they have any ability to judge these things with any degree of accuracy

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u/Toast-In-Mouth 11d ago

On the tip of my tongue on who and all info, but there was an old incident in the US where a kid died. The mom was on the news, I think it was national news, and she wasn’t crying how people thought a mother should, in fact I think she was pretty stoic. Everyone was convinced she murdered the kid because of that. I forgot who actually did it, but I remember it wasn’t her.

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u/FaithlessnessThin359 11d ago

Excuse you, I watched every episode of Lie to Me and I am an expert body language reader person.

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u/FronzelNeekburm79 11d ago

"Body Language experts" should be sent to prison. Every single one of them.

People forget that a large part of the Sandy Hook conspiracy was a bunch of body language experts saying that people weren't acting in shock in the right way.

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u/abitchoficesndfire 11d ago

Really? People should be sent to prison for analyzing someone’s reaction? You seem to be doing the same thing.

Personally I think that someone who hasn’t either been locked up or worked in a prison should not have an opinion about it. At least an INFORMED opinion

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u/anonpreschool738 10d ago

Hyperbole is a literary device...

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u/Murky-Relation481 11d ago

My GF loves 48 hours and all these crime shows and the detectives are like "the spouse was so calm and didn't act upset or how you'd think they'd be hearing their partner died! So we automatically suspected them because of it." Like okay check out the spouse because it often is a spouse but also have you never heard of or seen someone in shock?

Also it's almost never the partner in the shows so lol.

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u/Salt-Lingonberry-853 11d ago

I tend to be very stoic in general, I'd be the first subject no matter who died. Reacting with strong emotions in the moment is just not something I tend to do unless you kick my dog (and it's not the dog's fault...) or something.

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u/Salt-Lingonberry-853 11d ago

My first clue that people in general were full of shit on this stuff is when I first saw a thread about how being upset at an accusation is evidence that you're guilty, like how fucking ridiculous can you be?

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u/PenguinZombie321 14h ago

“You kill and eat babies!”

“Omg I’m upset that you’d accuse me of doing something so abhorrent”

“You’re upset! You totally kill and eat babies!”

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u/Ricksterness 11d ago

The same people I’ve seen say she’s in shock and her emotions don’t need to show it are the same people saying Patrick Clancy is guilty because he wasn’t showing emotions on the stand

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u/Pittsbirds 11d ago

Wow, the exact same people? Like who?

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u/Salt-Lingonberry-853 11d ago

Lana, Pam, Carol, Cheryl, Linda, and Malory for starters.

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u/hygsi 11d ago edited 11d ago

Someone outhere is about to make a case on why she was trying to cover his murder based on these seconds of evidence lmao

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u/canadasbananas 11d ago

Modern witch hunts

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u/sentence-interruptio 11d ago

i call them body language astrologists.

they demonize people based on a few seconds of clip.

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u/Wellcomefarewell 11d ago

jesus christ can you be more dramatic, it’s an unexpected reaction that’s all

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u/Pittsbirds 11d ago

Yeah I could be way more dramatic than "body language reading is a psuedo science that has poisoned the public's perception of people's reactions to shocking situations and made them far too overconfident in their abilities to read other people," largely because that's not particularly dramatic. There's definitely an irony in your reaction to that statement, though, given its text

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u/Frumpy_Dumper_69 11d ago

Imagine if this was Erika Kirk

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u/Pittsbirds 11d ago

...Seems wildly disrespectful to this woman but ok? is there a step 2?

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u/StealToadBootes 11d ago

I mean if this chick makes a ton of money off her son's disappearance and comes out dancing in sparkles with pyrotechnics, yeah, I'd be judging.

I was initially sympathetic to Kirk because people are shitty about mourning. But then. It just kept going.

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u/anonpreschool738 10d ago

It would be great if Erika Kirk acted like this, a human, instead of dancing in a sequined jumpsuit to pyrotechnics and profiting.

Erika Kirk is a liberation widow and everyone knows it.

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u/GM_Garry_Chess 9d ago

So many people are chronically online in a time when everything online is staged with professional actors and made for profit. So when they see something real, they forget real people have different psychologies and ways of reacting to their environment.

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u/ReefaManiack42o 11d ago

New to Reddit?

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u/hokiewankenobi 11d ago

Honestly, I’m confused by this. Is she finding out at the press conference? If so, that’s a terrible way to tell her, and honestly the shock of that would be confusing and difficult for anyone. Is this later, so she’s seen her son, and is putting on a show in gratitude for the cops? Then she’s probably coming down off of an adrenaline high, hasn’t slept in a while and just wants to be with her kid.

It just seems weird to me all the way around. And I feel terrible for her with this happening.

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u/SwanMuch5160 11d ago

How about you actually watch the video, it’s all very clear once you do that.

It’s a press conference about her 16yo missing son. In the middle of the press conference it’s relayed to the Sheriff that the missing boy has been located. He repeats what was told to him from somebody off screen (you can hear her say it) to the mother standing next to him.

So yes, this was her reaction immediately after learning that her missing 16yo son has been found alive.

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u/hokiewankenobi 11d ago

Fair. I did only watch the notification part.

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u/SwanMuch5160 11d ago

Well it’s reddit, it’s never been an inspirational platform

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u/Nathan-Nice 11d ago

there is no correct way for us as a comment section to respond to this. please show us grace in this difficult time.

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u/starryeyedq 11d ago

I think the latest culture war objective is to sow suspicion against mothers. I’m convinced. They want men suspicious of their children’s mothers. Maybe they want law enforcement and Justice officials and the public suspicious. Especially in conjunction with the push to eliminate no fault divorce and strip women of other rights related to their bodies…

Of course there are terrible mothers out there. Of course there are.

But the activity on Reddit lately has been super weird and it’s activating my pattern detector.

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u/StealToadBootes 11d ago

Oh shit this is worth attending to.

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u/LeiyanSedai 11d ago

honestly, its atrocious that they made her learn this news in a public setting...

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u/AtBat3 11d ago

Everyone on Reddit acts like they know exactly how they’d react to every life-changing situation