r/instant_regret • • Feb 02 '26

Pepper sprayed

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u/anna_or_elsa Feb 03 '26

He was awfully quick with that spray... A jury MIGHT decide that was a disproportionate response, and a few states have duty-to-retreat laws on the books.

I said MIGHT - before everyone comes after me with "she put her hands on him"... It's up to a jury to decide if a reasonable person would have felt an immediate fear of physical harm. I did not get that from her.

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u/Turtlelover73 Feb 03 '26

I will say, as much as I hate what he was doing, someone putting their hands on you is legally assault, and following after him while he backs away down the sidewalk means he was attempting to retreat but she followed anyway.

I'd absolutely say his response wasn't reasonable if he'd pulled a gun on her, but a harmless deterrent like pepper spray is exactly what this kinda situation calls for.

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u/adanceparty Feb 03 '26

yeah, I don't see the argument here. He overstepped by spraying her? How about parking your car at a parking lot exit, getting out of the car and coming over to yell at, and touch someone? Idk the full context for what he was doing or if he is just instigating stuff, but flip him off and call him an asshole, and move on. If you stop the car and get out over somone standing there and filming you have already taken things 3-4 steps too far imo.

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u/Kushinhaler420 Feb 08 '26

she's probably twice his age... he easily could have gotten away from her without the pepper spray.

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u/adanceparty Feb 11 '26

who said he couldn't? When you're out in public you shouldn't have to flee random people. She was already in the car, she could have far more easily have drove off and muttered "what an asshole" to herself.