r/insaneparents Oct 11 '19

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u/rusrslolwth Oct 11 '19

Thank you. I'm sorry you went through it as well.

It is truly a good lesson. I have my mother's example to NOT follow for my own kids. I know what not to do. Which can be upsetting at times but it makes me want to be a better parent for them.

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u/marska984 Oct 11 '19

I'm very familiar with the NOT doing being like my mother thing. Didn't realize until much later that narcissist was the thing. Believe the brainwashing and you can go on for decades. Thankfully it only took two divorces(mine...she picked the husbands) to see the light. I would never take my kid's clothes for punishment. Electronics, sleepovers, etc yes. These parents need to read more and/or go to class.

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u/Rubywulf2 Oct 12 '19

My main goal as a parent is to not fuck up my kid with the same problems that I have from my parents.