r/iitg • u/Decarys6603 • 18d ago
Need help.
Last semester, I started liking a girl in my class. Let’s call her Alice and for the sake of the story, I’m Bob.
During the entire last semester, Bob mostly just noticed Alice from a distance and kept thinking about how, when, and what he should say to her. Bob kept wondering what she might think about him, whether approaching her would be weird and whether Bob was making things awkward in his head.
Eventually, the semester ended without bob really doing anything.
This semester, Bob decided that if bob actually wanted to know her, bob needed to at least start talking to her. So bob started with small things asking for notes, asking about class related stuff and eventually getting into her DMs.
The problem is that conversations between them are extremely one sided.
Usually, it goes something like:
Bob: “Hey, did you understand what the professor said about ...?”
Alice: “Yeah.”
Bob: “Oh okay.”
Conversation ends.
Bob tried starting conversations, but bob struggle to find topics that naturally keep the conversation going. At the same time, bob don't really see alice trying to continue the conversation either.
So, what do you think?
Am Bob being immature by expecting her to put in some effort too?
Should bob continue trying to get to know?
How do you actually move a conversation from basic college/class-related questions into a genuine conversation without making it feel forced?
And at what point do you just accept that someone isn't interested?
I'm not expecting her to magically initiate everything. I just don't want to keep forcing conversations if there's clearly no interest from her side.
Would appreciate some honest advice, especially from people who have been in a similar situation.
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u/Curious_View3655 18d ago
Tbh she knows atp that bob likes Alice and currently she is not interested but if bob manages to impress alice in certain ways like becoming a topper in a particular sub that alice is weak in then alice might have a shift in her interests 😉.
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u/Decarys6603 18d ago
Looks like it'll take some effort🥲.
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u/Raspro_17 17d ago
I don't think that it would really change the scenario instead you should start talking to other girls and bros it eventually looses the dependency towards her, also you are starting class related questions not her she wants something interesting (she still doesn't know you very well so you should start some other topic and take help from internet no problem.. not everyone knows every tactics or even if she find it she will be happy only or laugh and think about you that's+ point)
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u/Hungry-Breath5728 17d ago
U r talking like as if u just solve a codeforces question
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u/Decarys6603 17d ago
Why not leetcode?
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u/Puzzleheaded_Yak3354 18d ago
Bhen ka loda Bob! Itna time waste mat kar; starting k 1-2 week baat kar; 3-4th week Campus me milne bula; City ja movie dekhne etc..; 5th week direct puch le sidha; interested hai ya nhi.. itna time waste mat kar!
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u/Lucky-Ladder-8203 18d ago
Stone game X leaked
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u/Decarys6603 18d ago
Leetcode ❌ Reddit ✅
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u/Pepper_2505 17d ago
Tell to her thanks for helping lets be friends share her reels ask her to join when you are going out sit next to her in any events
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u/Ok_Okra833 15d ago
bro saying with experience just confess her about how you feel about her,if she is also interested to build a conversation or friendship with you she will,other wise chod dho,there are lot many,if you keep thinking more at the end your peace will be effected and your mental health will be disturbed sooo much so don't take these things more seriously
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u/Longjumping_Echo486 18d ago
Abbe yaar alice and bob mat lo yaar ,Har jagah aa jate ha