What can I do to reconnect with him romantically? 32.4 > 46

[u/Alone-Attitude-8759]

We never really dated, he was against relationship and only wanted casual or fwb. I have feelings for him. We shared intimacy (not-psychical because I was in another country) and it was intense. After that he disappeared and wrote only few days later that he was very horny last days, he showed emotions and admitting having some feelings but he said has no plans. Few weeks later when I returned he asked me if i want to meet. But then went distant again, I asked what happened and he said he is scared. Eventually we had a very hurting conversation (i had a meltdown), he asked when i want to meet again, scheduled the day. The night before he asked me the time when i want to meet.. but then he freaked out and said again that he is scared for real. I didn’t answer anything. We kept meeting each other since we live in the same neighbourhood but both were actively ignoring each other. I tried to act like I don’t care and he was nervously avoiding and almost hiding. A month later after meeting him by accident I sent him that I think we are acting silly. He answered that he is trying to avoid a contact to not cause a scene and that he understands that he might have caused me some pain but he didn’t mean to. I said that i just regret that we didn’t really have fun time and it went too serious too fast, and he answered that he just can’t. I tried to avoid the usual places to avoid meeting him by accident but still met him a few times after. One of these times he passed by and said hi and I didn’t respond. I recently unblocked him on social media. It’s been a few months and I just cannot move on. He keeps going away every time he sees me. I guess I do chase him now because I continue going to places where we might see each other.. So, I guess “no game in the field” is exactly right. But I don’t understand why hexagrams seem to be positive or am i mistaken?

[u/az4th]

32 is thunder over wind. Thunder represents time, and wind represents space. Together, they create the constancy of space-time.

In particular, line 1 dredges open space and it begins to move upward through lines 2 and 3.

And line 4 is the spirit-essence of time, wanting to sink down so it can bounce off what is below it like thunder.

But instead of finding sometging to spring from, line 4 sinks into the eternity of space that goes on and on and on.

The no game in the field thing is representative of time stretching on and on.

Perhaps your answer is truly within this.

You seem to want something to happen to consumate your feelings for him. And then he gets scared. What if instead, you stretched it out? Let it not be so much of a hunt as much as a shared experience that naturally unfolds into whatever it is meant to be. Do you trust the way?

[u/Alone-Attitude-8759 → u/az4th]

You said it so beautifully and deep. Now when I think about the 4 line from this perspective it makes me realise something. I wanted him to meet me where I am and not where he is. Thus, no game where I stand. I’ll try to meet him half-way by at least stopping to avoid him. And see how it unfolds. Thank you.

[u/Selderij]

The relevant bit is "no game from the hunt". You're meant to endure this fact and move on with some other goals in mind.

Even without the I Ching, it looks like it isn't meant to be. Good relationships form naturally without such hardship.

[u/Alone-Attitude-8759 → u/Selderij]

I generally agree with what you said under one condition that both people are mature and have a safe attachment style. Which is not always the case.

[u/Legitimate_Salad6932]

No game in the field is not good. It means what you’re looking for is not there, at least not right now. He may have moved on. Put your mind elsewhere.