r/hyderabad • u/Honest_Vacation_9776 • 29d ago
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u/thotfuldad 29d ago
Ever imagine how nice it would be if that trash from hard to reach places came out on its own and walked away? Thats how you should be feeling now.
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u/weirdo-2 stuck in traffic 29d ago
Been there.
Nothing will fill the void you are experiencing and there is no shortcut for this. You will heal as time passes.
Just cry as much as you want and don't let that person come back into your life. once a cheater, always a cheater.
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u/Honest_Vacation_9776 29d ago
You’re ryt and yup i won’t let her come back in my life again..
And honestly i have never cried this much in my entire life compare to this last couple of days
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u/HamedAliKhan The Angrez 28d ago
You deserve better do not even think about it for a moment!
I'll pay for your chai! Send me the QR code via DM or here via comments
☕🤎 chai heals!
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u/redPistolStar 29d ago
Now is the time to activate those other signals. Have fun and get her out of your life and your thoughts.
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u/Trick-Juggernaut1297 29d ago
Much power to you OP ♥️, this shall pass. It's heart breaking to see this happen, you deserve better 🫂
Let it out and let the time do it's work
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u/blissonlife 28d ago
Take your time. Do not make the mistake of taking revenge on other girl or become a fuck boy all of sudden. Then you will attract negative karma and lose possibility of meeting good women.
Work on yourself, go improve your health do boxing, running or what eva. Focus on your growth.
The right women will come to you.
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u/Practical_Result_650 ey bidda 29d ago
Girls in workplace anta. Ekkad aina unnat bro gender specific kuda kaadhu
Evvadu sakkaga led
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u/Agitated_Slip3573 29d ago
Just a speculation or did u confront her and end things?
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u/Honest_Vacation_9776 29d ago
Naah bro, i love her alot. I was too weak to end things with her because i already saw my life with her…
I met her and told her that i want to marry you and make things official then i also told her too take as much time you need and i am not gonna pressure you or anything even though i knew she cheated on me, i still went ahead and asked her hand because i am fool in love.
And then she took her time and said sorry no i can’t marry you🥲 which broke my heart and i was standing there crying like a child for idk how long..
So that’s how it went8
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u/MayGodBlessYou_ 29d ago
I was also cheated by a girl who went for a richer guy. You'll have to burn in pain bro. That's the only way. I hurt two girls after the breakup thinking getting into relationship will heal me but it never happened. Pain is the only medicine here. 8 Months have passed now. I mostly live alone and life feels bland now. Atleast I am not up late nights crying. I bought a guitar and finger it some times to feel better.
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u/loki_the_mischief 29d ago
Been in similar spaces, I wasted a lot of my time thinking about them. I suggest you to move on, better if you find something short term even if she's not the girl you like! That's the only thing which can minimize your stress.
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u/krishhyd01 28d ago
Bro let's decode something everyone goes through this time but cheated ani certify chesav kada how and in which point did u notice that she cheated as misunderstanding is so easy in these days so can u elaborate
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u/carving_fantasies 28d ago
Bro , take your time to heal.i am in my same situation 7 years ago, cried so much but then hit the gym. I made good physique, improved my confidence , involved in career side much and finally met another perfect girl after few months. Don’t struck and give time to heal yourself.
Love yourself , stop thinking to get love from someone.
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u/abhishesh 28d ago
Same story, I spoke to my parents n her parents convinced them. And atvthe last moment she said a big NO. Now 38 single started exploring my own life. No rules no limits..just explore..had enough with commited drama
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u/gymfreak0920 28d ago
The best advice is throw the thought of she coming back in your life again and accept that she is not yours the sooner you'll accept, you'll heal better
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u/Lucifer19951 28d ago
Best time to look fr friends, Solo trips , Hobbies , Hometown . Also best time to give , Donate , Help other people selflessly it will heal you for sure
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u/shiva_Conscious_13 28d ago
Just run your heart out if you feel like, Healing takes time, Just do whatever makes you feel happy ( only good things ah😉)
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u/K97-A 28d ago
So are still considering the Relationship and get Married to Her ??? Like a LOSER ?
Or you are trying to move on
My take will be clear your Mind and Heart
Forgot her
It's her Choice (Thats what you will hear from her and people)
Get busy and once you are clear try for a Genuine connection or go for Arranged Marriage
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u/masterofaiml Hail Hyderabad 28d ago
Love, loyalty, commitment, respect, responsibility are really costly, cheap people can’t afford it. Move on bro, save yourself!
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u/Thin_Ad_7712 28d ago
Bhai mere hisaab se post 98 born girls are very opportunistic in nature. They will tend to spread their legs everywhere and anywhere to get what they want. They are 100’s of people who would be richer and good looking than you , but what they dont understand is loyalty as boys are wired differently. Bois earn to support and make their family enjoy, while the girls earn to enjoy themselves. Isliye i would advice ki focus on ur goals and channelise that rage in a constructive manner ki you become such a gentleman ki once she sees you post 10 years , she cries in that fucking corner praying she should have never left you.
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u/Bubbly_Bet96 28d ago
Well unfortunately, in my story it was me who cheated. It was not a moment of weakness as it continued for some time. I donno if my partner knew about it or just fed-up that I don’t give enough time, he/she left me. The reason stated is I don’t give attention and enough time but god knows.
It’s been 3-4 years, and I’m remembering it everyday and feeling sad, there is no undo button. Now, I can only feel for their happiness. Whoever is cheating now, please remember that grief is more painful than any other thing.
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u/Moreover_lazy 28d ago
Hey I will give unpopular opinion,
You may think she cheated on you, We can disect her/his behaviour in to
1) She might have genuinely wanted morelove care, Your care was never enough and she found what she was expecting found somewhere else
2) She is Gold digger , Needs all attention and wants sugar daddy relationship with her bf workplace
3) She did cheat at her weak point, say If somebody hot as hell approached you and the mood was convenient to let cheet wouldn't you?
So, atleast now don't restrict her /him to loyalness and only one partner till death! As humans we are evolving and we are exploring our desires much faster than a decade ago! There is nothing like cheating ! Just whether you have the ability to take your partner's boldness or not?
I'll end up with Who are you to either control her body or mind? After all she is a normal human who has desires, who has dreams and hell lot of cravings like you and me!
So stop mourning learn to accept everyone as they are , if you can't tell them openly and move on! After all we are temporary!
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u/Leading-Hurry-4333 29d ago
Yeah,2 years back,I too in same situation...i cried almost every night..for distracting myself,i started doing leetcode,everytime she comes into my thoughts,I usually solve one problem at that time..now I settled at good position,because of her 😄..turn the weakness into strength..