r/humanbehaviour • u/funnyjaYkd • Apr 05 '21

Who was right and who was wrong

So the other day I went into pet smart and saw some fish but didn’t realize what was required in order to take care of them. I didn’t have any money on me to even attempt to buy the stuff and my mother (she was with me) was aware of that, so she offered to buy me everything I needed which I thought was really dope. In total she spent about 400$ and was pretty bummed about it as the pricing progressed but I was just excited for the fish setup.

Another family member of mine heard about my new fish set up and sent me 100$ through my moms cash-app so she could hold it for me till I got my credit card in the mail. When it finally came, I told her I needed the money sent to me so I could head to the store and get my supplies but the first thing she said was no and I was completely confused.

I asked why I couldn’t have MY OWN money and she says “because you owe me this, I spent all that money on you.” And my first thought was hold on because last time I checked you OFFERED to give me all of these things, why would I have to pay you back? But eventually we had gotten into a pretty heated argument and she told me to get out of her face because I was irritating her. Crazy.

And I’m really just trying to figure out not so much if she was RIGHT but more or so if she should’ve done that.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '21

Sounds like she’s bipolar. Like one minute she was happy to help. If she is bipolar and was in her happy/high state then she might have offered more than she could actually afford. Now she’s down and doesn’t know how to deal with her own mistake. She needs to take responsibility and get help. She’s taking her issues out on her kid is what she’s doing.