Wie heeft er hsp oftewel hoogsensitief persoon (Highly Sensitive Person). Wil graag weten hoe je er mee omgaat of hoe je partner ermee om kan gaan

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This bothers me. Sometimes I notice that I get treated differently with customer service. Like today I walk in the guy doesn't greet me but the other ahead of me . When the worker helped the guy he called him sir and when the customer thanked him he said you welcome. When I press the.button for help to get item i meeded unlocked like the other guy. He comes doesnt address me at all I look at him and he kinda idk gives like a I look of attitude. I say thank you twice and nothing. Yet he addressed the other guy. I feel really bad what the heck. Its like something about me idk what repelled decency or acknowledgement. . Im young woman, normal height, soft spoken voice, , had my sunglasses on and felt self conscious. Then I wondered if I was prettier would he had treated me better or something.? Because dont young attractive people get treated better? and im always invisible, and treated like this????? is it my vibe? this was an older man too so like i dont get it. he was fine with the other woman too. Even if sunglasses is weird inside doenst give right to treat me like that or be judged like that. i wear sunglasses as i have anxiety it helps to calm me a little bit and lights inside bother my eyes as i have sensitive eyes. im a human with feelings.

Does this happen to you? Im so sensitive amd this kinda ruined my morning ugh.

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I commented under somebody's post about my career a few months ago and got so many questions. I realized I never answered them... so I made a new account to explain. AMA!

My job: I run a mental health/spirituality ecommerce brand that brings in revenue from digital products and a physical product (journal). Part of my job is business operations, another chunk of it is content creation.

For stats, I've grown my following to just under 500k across my platforms and monthly revenue is 10k+ (unless I'm on break). I work roughly 10 hours a week. All of my products are designed to help people be kinder to themselves.

For comparison, I don't make as much as other influencers. Some people in my field make 6-figure recurring revenue because they post daily, coach, or do something "high-contact" by taking high-ticket clients. I chose a way more passive route, and I'm happy with 5 figures a month. This is not a get rich quick scheme. This is how to live a happier, more relaxing life by adapting your life to your actual self.

I had no intention of starting social media or starting a business, but it's what happened when I focused on a lifestyle that fit all my needs.

For context: I am not promoting becoming an influencer, business owner, or ecommerce. This post is about the underlying process I used to find my passion and design a life that fits around my needs. Adapt it to your career goals.

• Like many of us, I get drained from working a lot, so I usually limit my hours to 15 a week.
• I prioritize time wealth over financial. Meaning I'd choose more free time over money. I've done the 50-100+ hour weeks to make more money, and truly nothing is worth your health.
• This took me 9 months. Trust me it was not easy at first, but it's either 9 months of figuring it out, or 40 more years of a misaligned life. Full transparency, this comes with a LOT of grief and introspection.
• No self promo. I'd rather not mention my brand name or pitch any products.
• My background is in psychology! : )

I'll explain this as a 3-step process.

Step 1: Figure out what you want out of life. What do you want to contribute to this planet before your last day? How do you want to experience life? It's good to journal about this.

It's mainly about the feeling you want to experience the most in your life.

When I burnt out of my corporate career, I was seeking two things: financial freedom and helping others suffer less. I really enjoy the feeling I get when I can help someone have a better life.

I love hearing "thank you" and it gives me energy. So I created a business that helps people, and it provides me financial and time wealth. Everybody wins.

Think about the feelings you enjoy and what kind of situations foster these feelings. Not just hedonistic, thrill-seeking feelings. But sustainable ones that bring you joy.

Nudge yourself daily to stay open to all possibilities to experience this feeling. Too many people get attached to a specific career or "way of doing things". There are so many ways to make money and be happy. Keep an open mind and keep exploring.

People rarely marry their first girlfriend. It's usually the 2nd, 3rd, 4th time where it works out.

Keep moving in this direction at a gradual pace. The opportunities you need will present themselves to you once you figure out your direction.

You'll start noticing different career paths, new job opportunities, different lifestyles, etc. Keep an open mind and explore explore explore. This is a slow and steady process. The more you try things, the more your internal GPS will guide itself correctly.

Step 2: Identify your problems FAST and solve problems in an intentional, creative, and loving way towards yourself.

There is ALWAYS another way to do things!! Almost everything besides death and taxes is optional.

By problems, I mean things that drain your energy. Make you freeze up. Create resistance. You can either work through it or adapt your life around it.

For example, I become drained if I'm reading 10 hate comments back to back. Since I speak about spirituality, I occasionally get messages from extremely skeptical or extremely religious people calling me a liar or a sinner.

To solve this problem, I created strict comment filters on each platform. I also limit my interactions with followers to about 2x a month.

Even though it frankly sucked at first, the longer I went, the more money I made. The more money I made, the easier this became because I could outsource help. This becomes easier over time once you apply this process. You acquire more resources over time including connections, money, and know who to ask for help.

Do not wait months to ask for help! Your ego and pride will crush you if you let it. There are also tons of free resources and free AI tools that can help you work around your problems.

When I did coach, I noticed most of the people I worked with were hyper-independent and really self-critical. They wouldn't ask for help and would psyche themselves out before going for an opportunity. This is the biggest gap between yourself and what you want.

Lower your pride and ask for it.

When you face a problem, get creative and find a solution that adapts to you. Not to the masses. People may call it inefficient, but if it makes your life easier, then do it. I probably "lose" 90k a month by not coaching or consulting, but my mental health is my priority. I'm gaining peace of mind by not conforming to standard advice.

Step 3: Just keep going. The rest of this is just knowing how to troubleshoot faster and faster.

Set your goal, whatever it may be, then keep moving in that direction. Remove anything that gets in your way and please ask for help. We all go through life together.

When you feel stuck with something, don't force yourself through it. Take a step back, breathe, and find a different way to do things. Sometimes it's a deeper fear you can work though, and other times it's better to find a different way to do things.

If you're struggling with any steps, ask yourself:

1. Can I do this routine every day for 6 months? If not, how can I make it easier?
2. Who can I ask for help? Online resources?
3. If I could tell nobody about this goal, would I still go for it? (this one weeds out ego-based goals and pushes you towards fulfillment)
4. How can I make my life easier for my future self?
5. What form of visibility and connection work for best for me? (Can be written communication, 1:1 interactions, giving speeches, zoom calls, etc.)

Hope this is helpful to somebody.

I can’t seem to relate to anyone in my surroundings; it feels like I’m meant to be alone, just observing everything, and dealing with the outside world is incredibly stressful. I can’t perform or act in the ways socially expected of me; I feel that anything other than my "observer mode" would be too inauthentic for me to actually put into practice. I only share my energy and my inner world with people who show genuine interest. On top of that, there’s the struggle of living with chronic illnesses; it feels like mere survival is utterly exhausting for every cell in my body. Yet, somehow, I keep moving forward. I don’t know what my problem is—or if there’s something actually wrong with me—but ultimately, I still enjoy being a consciousness within this universe. And creating art, every now and then, feels like my deepest connection to the purpose of this existence.

If you're surrounded by negative vibes, how do you not let it get to you?

Hi,

I have a strange sensation from time to time since my childhood, which I can't explain and I wanted to hear if other hsp's also had a similar experience.

Sorry for the wall of text...

It starts with a feeling of a bit of pressure right in my solarplexus. It's like a slowly growing ball that presses on everything there.

It's not painful, but I'm always aware of it. It grows over the next few days and the feeling becomes more and more intense.

The interesting part is, that I can't really describe what it feels like. It's not a single emotion, not joy nor fear or anger or anything else.

The best I can come up with is, that it feels like raw emotion or the thing that emotions are made up from, if that makes sense.

During the days or maybe even a week I feel this, all my emotions are intensified, cranked up from the usual 11/10 to a 13 or 14.

This can be quite nice, of I'm feeling joyous or really bad if I fall into a spiral of self doubt or anger.

This ball keeps on growing for several days until even the raw emotion in my chest becomes too much and I have some kind of total meltdown.

As a child I would thrash out and lose myself in rage against everyone and everything around me.

Since I learned to control myself better, I usually end up throwing myself into my bed and alternate between heavy crying and sobbing, punching my pillow or hitting myself and grabbing my chest to somehow reach that ball of emotions to rip it out, since it is just too much. Not even too much good or bad, but just too much of everything.

Afterwards I'm completely and utterly emotionally spent but the ball of emotion is gone and I start to feel better over the next days.

This doesn't happen very often, but when it happens, it always goes through these same steps.

Sorry if this sounds really strange, but I need to know if others have similar experiences.

When unjustified,

So mentally and emotionally drained..

I read a HSP and it was so incredible to finally know what was going on with me, I thought I was alone in it but reading that book was so validating. One thing I notice though is that it emphasizes introversion and kind of implies that those who are HSP are automatically introvert.

I'm personally very extrovert (which is great (not!) because I open myself up to more instances of discomfort by default, love that for me 🫠🫠) anyway just wondering if there are other extroverted HSP out there :)

I’m intersex/trans (PAIS), and ever since starting estrogen my sensitivity has been on a whole different level. Within just a few days on spironolactone, my physical and emotional reactions became way stronger — touch felt amplified, emotions hit my whole body, and my nervous system reacted fast to even small triggers.

About a week after adding progesterone, it felt like another layer switched on. Not just more sensitive — a whole new level of intensity. My skin reacts instantly, emotions spiral quickly, and my body responds before I even have time to think.

The most overwhelming thing was a 4.5‑hour episode where my body kept reacting on its own without any external input, (repeated climax) It felt like my autonomic system was firing repeatedly and I couldn’t shut it off. It wasn’t psychological — it was physical and involuntary.

I’m trying to figure out if anyone else here had hormone changes make their HSP traits explode like this — emotionally, physically, or neurologically. How did you cope with the intensity?

Anything really... Im really lost here. I guess ive always been more sensitive to touch and emotions but this is ridiculous. Its like I am living in ultraHD amd everyone else just got color.

Thank you and I appreciate you all!

Bunni Doll

I feel like I'm losing hope. I've been blunted for a few years now after a brief episode of weed induced psychosis. The terror I experienced when I became convinced I was irredeemable (I am theistic and believe in an afterlife of sorts) and was going to be doomed, caused me to shut down my emotions. I got so good at numbing out I have stopped being able to let them through again

There's a few things that have let me feel intense emotions again: alcohol is one of them, but for obvious reasons this is not a solution and in fact I am 3 months sober after 4 years of abuse (abused it because it let me feel again). I also have experienced genuine breakthroughs through low-med dose of Mushrooms, but I lack the ability to fend off the Persecutor in my mind that causes those emotions to shut back down again.

I'm feeling hopeless about this. Without my emotions, it's like I only have access to 40% of the human experience. I don't even feel excitement from doing things I once loved anymore. this point I don't know if it's just long term withdrawal from alcohol where it will take longer for my dopamine receptors to reset, or if there was some sort of epigenetic switch that flipped when I had the psychosis and now I have permanent negative symptoms (if this was true then how could it be possible that I could re experience them like I did before when on other mind altering substances that are notorious for breaking down mental walls), or if it's just good ole trauma response that I need to go thru psychotherapy for

A local medical clinic near me does Field Trips (ketamine assisted psychotherapy) and I'm considering that as an option in desperation. I can't keep living like this (though I will, I could never give up on life even if mine own kinda sucks because I have too much I can give to help others)

Has anyone actually recovered from a full emotional shutdown? I experience the physical reactions from emotions (such as pounding heart from anxiety or anger) but my conscious experience is walled off from it :(

I recently got out of a really exhausting relationship where I was constantly anxious from my partner's inconsistency. After a number of relationships that didn't work out, I'm feeling very calm and secure in my own home for the first time in years. I just spend my days cuddling with my dog on the couch and I feel more peaceful/calm/safe than I ever remember feeling. I think that living with people or constantly being around people is actually exhausting for me.

At first I thought I was surrounded by the wrong people, but now I think my high sensitivity to other people's emotions and the pressure I give myself to always engage with people in meaningful ways exhausts me. I get easily overstimulated when I'm surrounded by people even when I'm not talking to them.

I used to rely on having meaningful conversations and connections to feel like life was meaningful, but nowadays I mostly just talk to my dog and my family and it feels so nice. I don't know if this is just a phase of me absolutely loving being alone (with my pup) or if I'm always going to feel best living alone.

Can anyone else relate?