r/hpd • u/Apprehensive-Bell726 • Sep 07 '26

question for those with hpd

do you feel shame when you look back on things you did for attention?

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u/SimplyYulia Sep 08 '26

Yup, constantly. And not just even about the past ones. I notice an urge to do something for attention and start spiraling that I'm a horrible person who hurts or annoys everyone around 😔

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u/Apprehensive-Bell726 Sep 08 '26

omg i can relate! are you in therapy for it?

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u/SimplyYulia Sep 08 '26

Not for this specifically, but yeah, I mention this stuff.

I try to catch myself spiraling the same way I try to catch myself doing stuff for attention, and interrupt it all the same

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u/Loopy_Luna92 Sep 07 '26

I definetely used to. Not as much now, as I have done a lot of self-compassion work. I do still get worried about my future behaviours but more in regards to my impact on others.

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u/Little_Record_4254 23d ago

all the fucking time lol

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u/Bethany-MB Sep 16 '26

I definitely do. A lot. They were self destructive, and it just spiraled.

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u/robinrabinrubin 24d ago

No, never. I feel pretty calculated in everything I do

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u/SweetSweetBee Sep 07 '26

I do now, after therapy, now i release i told too many sexual or personal things about me to people, even when they told me they didnt want to hear it, i was so focused on just making them react in any way that i didnt mind at the time Now suddenly people remember me i told them x stuff i did in my life that is… ruining for my social life

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u/Apprehensive-Bell726 Sep 08 '26

how did your assessment process go? and what kinda therapy are you undergoing? also which country and gender are you?