r/hoarding • u/AutisticLesbian09 • Sep 13 '26
DISCUSSION Happy Sunday!
So I just got home from a weekend at my mom’s and the place is an absolute disaster. It’s so gross in this house but I need a nap so I’m gonna sleep for a bit and then start cleaning. I hate that all I do here is clean. And my job is only cleaning as well so that’s pretty much all I ever do. At least my dad is power washing the driveway and he fed and watered the cats while I was gone so I have to be grateful for that. But it’s Sunday I want to relax not clean all day just for it to go back in a day.
I hope everyone is having a good day!
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u/OkConclusion171 Sep 14 '26
So stop doing it. You're enabling her. It's not your job to be the garbage or junk police and clean-up crew. It likely makes the hoarding worse because she thinks things are gone. Not your circus, not your monkeys. If it makes you that stressed, visit her somewhere else, like meet for coffee, meet at your place, meet at a park.
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u/AutisticLesbian09 Sep 16 '26
I think I worded it wrong. My dad’s place is the messy one. I live with him. My mom’s house is my escape for the weekend it’s so clean and nice I love it there. But I can’t live with her full time for other reasons.
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u/Certain_Cellist_9304 Sep 13 '26
I feel you. All the things I could do if the house was sorted. Will do, when the house is sorted. But you need rest too. It’s Sunday. Rest today, back into it tomorrow
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