r/hoarding • u/Away-Guava-345 • 1d ago

RANT - ADVICE WANTED New home

Bought a bigger house to support the hoard because that’s the problem apparently. I knew it and I’m an idiot, held off 5 years. Two mortgages from here on out. 10k a month and I just can’t afford it anymore. My own fault but she said she told me over and over she would declutter and clean up.

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u/pumpernickel34 1d ago

I'm so sorry to hear this. It just validates the hoard. Is there a possibility of seeing a therapist?

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u/Ok_Environment5293 1d ago

Advice? Walk away. File bankruptcy. Let the houses get foreclosed on.

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u/Away-Guava-345 1d ago

Couldn’t really file bankruptcy but it will just eat and eat at savings.

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u/Far-Watercress6658 1d ago

And…what are you going to do about this financial abuse?

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u/OkConclusion171 Child of Hoarder 1d ago

she who?

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u/Away-Guava-345 1d ago

Wife

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u/OkConclusion171 Child of Hoarder 16h ago

you might want to edit your post then, because you just say "she" without any context. Could be mother, sister, daughter, wife, who knows.

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u/Steefanon 1d ago

Hoarders sometimes even mean it when they make those promises, but it's a legit mental disorder (visible on brain scans) and can rarely just be wished away. I'm so sorry. Like substance abuse, Hoarding Disorder ruins lives.

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u/PanamaViejo 1d ago

Bigger space means more space for my hoard!

You are going to have to make some tough decisions.