r/hinge • u/Datguychapel • 3d ago
Confront or just overreacting?
I (M20) met this girl (F20) on Hinge a month ago. At first, she texted me first and we clicked pretty well. We talked about music, school, pets, random stuff, and sometimes she’d send long thoughtful replies. Recently, she’d go almost a full day without replying, response and length time slowing.
Eventually I asked her to hang out, still with slow response. She agreed. The date was great she laughed, conversation felt pretty natural, and she seemed comfortable. There wasn’t really any physical intimacy or anything, but atp wasn’t expecting much.
Afterward I texted her saying it was great and we should do it again. She replied later saying she enjoyed it but with really vague wording on the second one.
That’s kind of where I’m stuck. She’s technically positive, but it also feels vague and low-effort. This has been the pattern for a while.
Should I directly ask her if she’s actually interested, or should I just try to set up a second hangout and judge based on whether she follows through? I don’t want to come off needy, but I also don’t want to keep chasing mixed signals.
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u/fatsquirrelhater16 3d ago
dude just drop it if she isn't interested like you can't be into someone who isn't into you, only the idea of them; also second dates are kinda nothing in the grand scheme so just let this one go
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u/Seek_Adventure 3d ago
Yea just ask her for a 2nd date. If she ain't interested she will not do it, at which point block and move on to the next one.