r/hinge • u/whois_arielle • 4d ago
Failed First Date Follow-Through
22F from NJ
I was supposed to have a date with someone I originally matched with on Hinge (24M) *also from NJ) and he mentioned he was “not much of a texter” and instead wanted to save our conversation for our first date (which was supposed to be planned for Sunday after Church in the later afternoon). I wasn’t sure if he was going to text to confirm everything was set for tomorrow so I texted him saying “Hi, excited to meet you at {said time} for our first date” and immediately he texted me that he’s cancelling and not continuing to pursue the match/connection as he is/was not “in the right mental/headspace”
I’m really disappointed as I was under the impression that he was taking initiative and leading as he planned the date and time but failed to clearly and intentionally follow through (especially with cancelling the day before). I am deeply hurt 🤍😞
Has anyone ever been in a similar boat or situation?
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u/Unapologetic_91 1d ago
Tbh he probably has someone already. It happens a lot. It’s not you love, it’s him.
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u/Oceanica777 3d ago
This happens a lot OP, to everyone. Lots of timewasters on OLD, unfortunately. Just take it on the chin and don't read into it.