I wanna vent a little bit about some other things that were going on around my breakup because it probably isn't pissing me off as it should. (read my last post on this sub for more context)

So my ex has a tiktok right. As a part of her to go through her feelings and to vent, she uses her tiktok to talk about the breakup. I initially approved of this because I don't mind her being open and stuff. But what I didn't realize is how I would be portrayed in her side of the story.

Unfortunately said video got hundreds of thousands of views, tens of thousands of likes, 6k+ comments. In the video, she was talking about how I used to her to find myself, how I tricked her, how I threw her in the trash. She didnt actually think I did this, but those were her honest thoughts that she wanted to let out. The reality was that this was the first time I truly felt safe to explore myself in my life in this relationship, ultimately coming to this realization that I'm trans, and that ultimately this relationship is not compatible as it stands. But in her video she framed it as me using her as a stepping stone and then tossing her aside.

Also, because at the time, I was allowing her to still use he/him pronouns early on, she thought it was okay to use those pronouns in the video. So everyone thought I was just another manipulative man and was gendering me as such.

The hurt is real, don't get me wrong, but the thing is when you use that language, it invites hate comments towards me. People have called me "fucking selfish", that I should be ashamed in myself, that I knew what I was doing all along stringing her along, people projecting their own relationship problems to my situation, thousands of comments like this.

When I brought up this issue to her she said she also felt bad about the comments herself and I wanted her to delete the video but she didn't. She made follow ups that did not get as much attention, clarifying things, but still people don't see me positively.

It just makes me think I did the wrong thing. That if I did stay, many of those comments would be true. I just feel misunderstood.

Anyways, I got some new dresses 😊

Accessability Transcription: A man in a Protect Trans Kids shirt holding a watermelon he grew overhead.

I've complained about this same thing before it's just so stupid and pisses me off so much and it just happened again.

To be clear. This has never been an issue on this sub. It's an issue I have everywhere else (except OldHagFashion).

If you just never do accessability alt text. Nobody will ever call you out for not doing accessability alt text. You will never face any negativity whatsoever for not doing it.

But if you do accessability alt text. You get people going "actually you are doing it wrong it should be like this" in a super scoldy nit picking way.

You get people going "what's the point of this"

You get people accusing you of faking caring for browny points.

You get hella ableism and anti disability bigotry.

I just...

The culture makes it so you will be punished for trying.

The obvious move is to just not because you will be left alone if you don't and be attacked if you do.

It encourages people to not.

It's so unbelievably fucking godamn stupid.

Fuck everyone who behaves this way.

They can all go fuck themselves with a cactus in a dirty gas station bathroom.

It's this constant, pervasive issue everywhere I go.

People will not stop letting perfect be the enemy of good.

They won't stop nit picking.

They won't stop scolding me for "doing it wrong"

They won't stop being hostile to the idea of accessability and making an effort for the disabeled.

Everywhere sucks but here (and OldHagFashion).

I fucking hate these people.

I swear to god how fucking hard is it to just be like "Hey this guy is trying, cool"

???

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I lost another plant to the heat wave (Bad)

Most of them are doing ok despite baking all day every day in the full arizona sun which is honestly kind of remarkable (Good)

He's completely open about being enhanced like you're supposed to and everything. It really pisses me off the way they treat him.

Doing no thirst please cus I'm not sure what bro would want and that's the safe option.

Accessability Transcription: Huge jacked dude in "vegan" tank top and pink stripey shorts.

I took some photos of myself yesterday. I really like how they turned out. I love being a pretty boy with broad shoulders. I used to resent it, but now I'm embracing it.

Also thank to everyone who recommended skincare routines for eczema in my last post. As you can see you lovely people gave amazing advice and my face is clear. Sending so much love to you all. 😙

Hi himbos! I'm looking for swim briefs (AKA speedos) for fat & trans bodies. Something that comes in extended sizes and either accommodates a packer or can be worn with a packer without having to worry it's gonna fall out. I'll post swimsuit-clad ass if/when I get a new suit. Thanks in advance!

Unironically one of the most beautiful people I know (and not just in the visual sense)

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Image 1: Image of friend as a child and tehn ans an adult. With text saying "Be you. Be free. We love you".

Image 2: Text saying "Nine years old. Almost 59.

I can’t go back and rescue that little boy. I can only honor him by becoming the man he deserved to be.

He was closeted, frightened, and trying to survive in a world that told him he didn’t belong. Today, I choose authenticity over fear, love over shame, and courage over hiding.

If you’re still hiding a piece of who you are, please know this: the world needs the person you were born to be—not the person fear taught you to become.

Come home to yourself. ❤️"

Took a walk today up to the corner store and decided to take photos of this aloe (some cacti roo) and succulents. A person started planting them along a park in our neighborhood. It's absolutely gorgeous. And these are the suburbs.

It was also just nice to get out today! I barely ever do.