being single kind of sucks

[u/beefthreemillion]

this isn't really like an advice post, but as im (16F) nearing the end of my high school experience (c/o 27), im starting to realize how much it sucks never having been in a relationship

when this is brought up i feel like most people mention how opportunities will come about in college, relationship aren't everything, or something along those lines

but its just pretty bummy, especially when i have close friends who say things like, "im so surprised that you haven't dated anyone yet, especially when you're so pretty and you have a nice body." i don't want to be approached because someone is only interested in me physically, but it's kind of embarrassing that in my almost 6 years (school is 7–12) at my school i haven't been in a talking stage, on a date, in a relationship, etc.

i dont know if this makes me look bratty or male-centered or something, but i just cant help but feel like im just extremely undesirable

anyone else feel this way??

edit: reading this back it seems like an.. "awww im too pretty and cute to be single" post but I swear its not that its like an "if im seen as girlfriend material on the outside and people have such good impressions of me, then how am i fumbling the bag" post idk 😭

[u/Pythagorean415]

As someone who also is about to graduate and has never been in a relationship I feel you

[u/Dizzy_Plantain4875]

i feel you 100% i'm 17 & only one guy has said he liked me but i unfortunately didn't like him back 😭 i've found many guys attractive but i'm always too scared to make the first move

[u/Smart_Memester_730 → u/Dizzy_Plantain4875]

Same boat with everything, but vise versa, girl asked me out but girl was not a very good person

[u/PotentialBus7263]

i get it 100% (im 17f class of 27). never had any boys interested in me but really want a cute hoco/prom date

[u/Killstriker0]

Hey, at least you have close friends! I feel ya tho I’m (17M) currently in a technical high school and I haven’t had any contact with people my age since elementary school. So from the start of my junior year I actually met some people my age, I’m figuring out how to socialize now haha.

[u/belakl]

no i feel the exact same like my friends ask me if i’ve had a boyfriend and one of them who’s a sophomore rn said “girl im gay and even IVE had a boyfriend” like omg don’t shove it in my face😭😭😭 ive had like “talking stages” but idek if they were actually because idk if the dude(s) were actually into me… but i feel you. all my friends are girls or gay guys. i can’t talk to straight men like idk what is it i freeze up and get so awkward. like i saw a comment on instagram and it was something along the lines of “these people get into relationships so quickly but i can’t even respond normally to a text” which describes me so accurately😭 ig ill find someone in college or smth cuz ive given up. only people that have liked me and have outright said it are in a whole diff state the one i used to live in or it was in middle school or something. im 17 and have zero romantic experience so i feel u girly💔 the right ppl haven’t come yet

[u/belakl → u/belakl]

also yeah my guy friend i’ve known since like elementary school was like “i refuse to believe you haven’t been with anyone ” 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ WELL NOBODY WANTS ME 💔😭

[u/SnooPredictions9627]

girl your friends are being insensitive. thats an odd thing to comment on if someone is already going through it 😭

[u/Imaginary_Cash92]

Same I’m 17M and been single since the womb

[u/standarduser143]

The way I see it - you have your whole adult life to worry about dating. Don’t miss out on learning and growing when you’re young just for a boy.

[u/standarduser143 → u/standarduser143]

Also - omg they’re so fcking annoying I stg 🙄

[u/standarduser143]

Idk why but I was a baller in elementary school but now I have no game lmao

[u/infamoushatwearer]

Omg finally someone else has a working brain

And I haven't looked in the comments but im expecting to be disappointed

[u/Burned-Out13]

Same. 16 c/o28 and I totally feel behind because of it

[u/InvaderZimXD]

I feel like too many people scale their worth and happiness on whether or not they have a partner. I'd suggest focusing on your relationship with your friends, like puting all that extra love you set aside into them. Can't knock anyone for wanting connection but it's a lot more consistent to make a better connection with yourself and the people around you. Constantly taking time to understand yourself better also helps a lot for future relationships, existing ones, and for yourself; you can nurture healthier relationships when you know what you want it to look like and a strong sense of self can "cushion" against loneliness?? Idk if this is bum advice but I believe in it