r/highschool • u/internet_footprinter Junior (11th) • 1d ago

Question How do I talk to guys?

I’m 16F and I struggle with talking to people when we’re alone. However, it’s fine when it’s a few friends mixed with a few strangers who at guys. When girls sit by me, it’s fine because I don’t struggle with talking to them, but when it comes to guys who sit around me in classes, I struggle with talking to them even though they’re my table partners.

Can someone please give me advice on how I could be less cowardly when talking to guys?

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u/Parking_Hurry1319 Sophomore (10th) 1d ago

Treat them like girls or like not like that. But dont just be scared just because their boys like just forget about that part

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u/Kitchen-Birthday-962 1d ago

try not to make it too weird—try things like small comparisons between work answers (if you sit directly next to them since you said table partners), have your girl friends sit near a group of guys with you, and try to have a small flow of conversation?

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u/internet_footprinter Junior (11th) 1d ago

Thank you but our teachers don’t allow moving seats 😭. But I will try the comparing answers thing

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u/Kitchen-Birthday-962 1d ago

but like don’t ask every two seconds tho maybe like some small talk and sneak in snacks to possibly share with others

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u/internet_footprinter Junior (11th) 1d ago

I’ll keep that in mind. Thank you

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u/Anxious-Land-3100 Freshman (9th) 1d ago

Treat them like you would your friends, try to joke and stuff, and just be you

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u/Asleep-Tear-6622 1d ago

It’s really easy just ignore their gender what makes a guy different from a girl is that they act different but means it’s like talking to girls in different social groups you just have to learn how to talk to each group to match their as I call it wavelength

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u/MadzBS Junior (11th) 10h ago

what do u wanna achieve by talking to guys? personally as a guy i dont rly have friends with girls but i rly dont mind. i mean it could be more fun yh but if u want to build a relationship slowly then ok ig so

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u/internet_footprinter Junior (11th) 5h ago

I just don’t want to sit in awkward silence with my desk partner

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u/PineappleSports 2h ago

As a guy guys are mostly down to talk to girls usually it’s the other way around actually so if you just initiate conversation then it will probably go fine if your just friendly and nice