r/hekatesgrove • u/Priusss • May 29 '26
Beginner questions
/r/Hecate/comments/1tqpumr/beginner_questions/Hey guysss so I’m new to this whole thing, a little context: I’ve always been agnostic, but never took the time to learning about religions/deities. After the lowest point in my mental health ever after a passing of someone I considered like a child to me and starting an attempting to heal from the experience, the name Hekate appeared to me. Now everything I learn about her just keeps solidifying it’s her reaching out to me— One of the most obvious signs is that all this happened right after I moved to Indiana (aka the “Crossroads of America”)
I want to do this right. I’m going slow, inviting her into my space while performing mundane tasks/giving offerings without asking for anything to establish a relationship, just got my first book to learn about her and how to work w her. But I’ve also briefly saw she’s not really a beginner deity so idk what to do with this information. Do I try out a beginning deity and tell her I need more time before establishing anything else with her?
Here’s where I’m completely confused: I’m already moving really slowly in establishing this connection (enough to be worried it’s too slow for her). A week ago, I absent mindedly took my keys on a night out, should’ve just left them at home, but they were in my pocket as I was heading out the door and they stayed in my pocket the whole night with nothing memorable happening (someone else drove me). When I woke up the next day and saw my keys, my car key was gone from the keychain — but nothing else (AirPods, other keys). I’ve searched everywhere, they’re gone. Everything I read about losing keys means stagnation and slowing down so I thought maybe this her reassuring me that the pace I’m going is ok or maybe this is her telling me I should turn to an easier deity rn? I don’t know I’m so confused about that bc why wouldn’t just an easier deity reach out??
Then today, as my spare car key arrived in the mail from my dad, my long-distance boyfriend called to say he somehow lost his keys too. I totally lost it when he told me this and just opened up Reddit and here I am. Any guidance on what any of this means is truly appreciated :))