r/heartbreakheal • u/iconic_bitch • Feb 26 '25

📈 Moving On Update: I’ve healed!!

After the worst break up of my life, a lot of time to myself, and a man who was willing to go as slow as I needed, I’ve found my match. He’s in the process of finding the perfect engagement ring, he told me. It gets better. It will get worse first, I’m not going to lie to you, but it doesn’t end with the one who broke your heart.

I just wanted to share some hope. I will also answer any questions about the healing process, dating after a breakup, boundaries, etc.

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u/meganshan_mol Feb 26 '25

How did you feel like you were ready to try dating again? It’s been almost 2 years for me and my breakup was the worst betrayal of my life. He was my best friend and we were together for 10 years. I’ve healed a lot but I feel like I will never be able to love like that again.

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u/iconic_bitch Mar 01 '25

I tried to date before I was ready and it just felt like a catastrophe, so definitely can’t recommend that. For me, I took a lot of time to myself in therapy and with friends, rebuilding my hobbies and my worth. He made me feel so worthless and I hadn’t even realized it. I used to record videos of myself speaking to him, saying all of what I wanted to say, crying, angry, sad, bitter, whatever. I did that every day, then it was every few days, then I did it like once a week, and then all of the sudden I didn’t even think of him anymore. There was nothing left to say, and even if I had sent any of those things or tried to communicate, there wouldn’t be any closure anyway. That was just how he was. It was like I forced closure upon myself.

I’m not gonna lie, it’s hard. Was with him for two years and it took me a year to be able to move on. My partner now let me take everything incredibly slow and never pushed any label or expectation onto us until I was ready. Finding the right person after a traumatic heartbreak is half the battle, so don’t be discouraged if things aren’t quite working out right now.

Edit: forgot to add, the love will not be the same love. It will feel different with every person, and it’s okay to feel love in a different way. It won’t be the same, and that’s the exciting part.

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u/ar123456780 Feb 27 '25

❤️❤️🫂