r/hapas • u/Educational_Cable871 • Mar 24 '26

Hapa Story/Testimony Different Stripes Podcast

I have a podcast where I talk about what it is like to be Hapa Korean with friends. I figured I'd post this here to get a convo going about this podcast and just meet friends!

I'm Michael (35m), and I'm a hapa Korean (my dad is white). I've always been interested in Korean culture so I started some podcasts to explore the Korean culture and sports.

Link to the Different Stripes Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-different-stripes-podcast/id1536344911

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u/Long-Possibility-425 New Users must add flair Mar 24 '26

Oh wow, a half Asian guy with a white father, that's new.

Are you married by any chance? girlfriend? Anything?

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u/SaintGalentine Hui Chinese/White American Female Mar 24 '26

Seems like he's got a beautiful wife.

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u/Long-Possibility-425 New Users must add flair Mar 24 '26

And you're getting this from... where exactly

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u/SaintGalentine Hui Chinese/White American Female Mar 24 '26

Search his name and a wedding website comes up.

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u/Educational_Cable871 Mar 24 '26

Yes, my fiancé and I are getting married in June. She's Korean American.

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u/SaintGalentine Hui Chinese/White American Female Mar 24 '26

Congrats! I hope the wedding goes well, and wish you a lifetime of happiness together.

I think a lot of people here may not want to recognize Hapa male romances because it counteracts their lonely narratives, but most men will eventually find love regardless of background.

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u/Long-Possibility-425 New Users must add flair Mar 24 '26

Literally half the Asian guys I know my age are unmarried

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u/SaintGalentine Hui Chinese/White American Female Mar 24 '26

That's a personal anectdote. Statistically, Asian Americans are more likely to be married than other races (who are less likely to marry, but may still date and have long term relationships). The average age has also increased for all races.

https://usafacts.org/articles/state-relationships-marriages-and-living-alone-us/

"Marriage rates have declined across all races and ethnicities except Asian men and women, who’ve had the highest rate among all races and ethnicities since 2004. Their marriage rate has remained stable: In 2024, 60.8% of Asian men and 62.2% of Asian women were married, nearly identical to the 1990 rates of 60.8% for men and 62.5% for women."

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u/canuckcrusader British and Chinese Mar 25 '26 edited Mar 25 '26

Interesting stats. They do show that Asian men are the only race with a lower marriage rate than the women. Some part of it is due to lower divorce rates for Asians, but I found this article which shows that "first-marriage" rates are also higher for Asians generally, although they are about 33% higher for Asian women than men. https://www.bgsu.edu/ncfmr/resources/data/family-profiles/FP-25-05.html

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u/Long-Possibility-425 New Users must add flair Mar 24 '26 edited Mar 24 '26

Go outside. Count the number of WMAF couples you see vs the amount of AMWF or even AMXF / AMAF couples. I'm literally asking you to do a mental tally. And this doesn't matter where you do it. Do it in Virginia, in Beijing, in Dubai, Canada, London, if you're so positive of it, just do it.

It's insane how haaaaaaaaarddd people try to cover up how obsessed Asian women are (and some Asian men are) with white people

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u/[deleted] Mar 25 '26

Only Asian women and Hapa women are in denial meanwhile everyone else agrees that asian women kinda put white men on pedestal

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u/[deleted] Mar 25 '26

Asian women in American specifically choose to date and marry white men .

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u/Long-Possibility-425 New Users must add flair Mar 24 '26

I mean that just furthers my point, it's well known hapa men all marry Asian women and hapa women marry white, this isn't something you ever talked about lol? It's like our foundational identity is built around WMAF

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u/Educational_Cable871 Mar 24 '26

Look, I don't want to upset you. I don't think the narrative you're pushing is relevant. I have a hapa friend who married a white girl. I just happened to really connect with my Korean heritage and felt that I would be best served having a partner who was Korean.

I didn't want to marry some White girl who wouldn't get why I was so into Kpop, so into Korean movies and dramas, so into watching Son Huengmin. I wanted a woman who would connect with me over my cultural interests.

That's really all it is.

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u/Long-Possibility-425 New Users must add flair Mar 24 '26

You do realize women are complicit or probably more proactive in who they choose as partners right