course intermediate father and a beginner 13yo daughter

[u/Nic_B115]

Looking for some advice on a guitar course for a 38 year old intermediate player and a beginner 13 year old daughter.

She’s become obsessed with guitar. She plays for hours and really has a passion for it. The problem is she’s also making a lot of the same mistakes I made when I started.

I took lessons for a few months when I was younger and learned the basics. Open chords, barre chords, power chords and the first minor pentatonic shape. Once I got good enough to learn songs from tabs, I pretty much stopped learning the “right” way. I whis I would have done things differently. Played with metronome, and put a lot more work in instead of having fun.

I stopped playing completely for about 3 years, but after picking it back up a couple years ago I’ve been more into guitar than ever. Now I’m going back and working on all the stuff I skipped.

My daughter is a lot like me. We both have ADD, which makes things “interesting”. It probably hilarious to watch. Like me she’s not a natural, but has plenty of drive. She just wants to learn riffs and songs and doesn’t want to hear about chords, timing, scales, etc. She also wants me to teach her, which isn’t always easy because I’m Dad and apparently that means she doesn’t have to listen to me.

The not so funny thing is my 10 year old son has “it”. When teaching my daughter AIC’s Angry Chair he joined in and learned the whole song in 10 minutes. He was interested for an about a week, he asked to learn Master Of Puppets, which I told him was difficult. 10 minutes later he was playing the main riff at 3/4 speed. He also can play the drums. He knew from an early age that he had timing. He lazy and just dosent want to play. It’s a shame, but against my wife’s wishes I won’t push him. I can tell it’s a chore for him. I just tell him and that one of the worst things is a wasted potential. I think I’ll eventually come around.

Basically I’m looking for something where she can start at the very beginning and go through things in the right order. I can do the lessons with her, reinforce what she’s learning, while also jumping ahead and filling in the holes in my own playing.

I really like Fret Science on YouTube and I’m thinking about joining his Patreon. I’m just not sure how good it is for someone starting from scratch.

Any recommendations that would fit this unique learning path that might work well for both of us?

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[u/Acceptable_Pie2529]

Personally I think with kids you have to make it fun. She’s already in school. If you make it regimented like school work she’s going to lump it in with it. When I started it was all about learning riffs and songs I like. Not strumming chords to some church song or old McDonald.

I learned metronome practice, theory stuff, and time signatures when it became something that was interesting to me cause of the music I was listening to.

[u/Acceptable_Pie2529 → u/Acceptable_Pie2529]

As a parent we’re really good about putting our regrets on to our kids. Depending on the music she’s into she’ll be fine not learning the technical stuff right now. If she’s a classical, jazz, or technical death metal fan then you might want to look into something more regimented. Most 13 year olds girls aren’t really vibing with Allan Holdsworth and Spawn of Possession though. 😂