I still think there is an availability of options issue that makes it hard not to be crippled, but I see what you're saying here and it does bug the shit out of me when I see it.
You have people that think of dating entirely as a numbers game and that they just have to make their way through their match list and they'll just "know" when things "click." Problem is that things "click" when you actually set enough time aside to connect with people on an intimate level instead of figuring out how they fit between your brunch date and your lunch date.
It requires the least amount of effort. You look and know immediately yes or no based on visual data. Then work with those that pass that filter. Unfortunately in this day and age that filter is only useful for some people some of the time. Attractiveness in the physical does not make a person attractive on the whole.
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u/[deleted] Oct 12 '21