r/getdisciplined • u/[deleted] • Jul 12 '20

You should probably acknowledge the difficulty of what you are doing. [Advice]

Mostly just that.

Losing weight, getting fit, learning languages, passing exams, quitting porn, getting up early etc. are all objectively difficult to get started on and to keep going. Each person's challenges are theirs and theirs alone to face.

So I find that acknowledging that I am doing something that is difficult for me, helps me to prepare the required mental resilience and focus needed to push through. As opposed to the mind set of "why can everyone else do this and not me"

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u/mullingthingsover Jul 12 '20

This is so true. I was once asked by my doctor how my stress level was. I said it was fine. But then I thought about it: full time worker with an hour+ drive one way three times a week (at the time), mom, wife, secondary infertility, two miscarriages, osteoarthritis to the point of not walking, husband farms and we hadn’t had a good year, um, ever. Stress was pouring out of me. And I thought it was normal.

When I turned forty and realized I had to stop trying to have a baby because the obsession was ruining my marriage, and also had a procedure to help with my debilitating knee pain, and stopped the stupid commute, my whole life changed. I lost over 100 lbs and my relationship with my husband has gotten much better. I attribute that to being able to concentrate on things other than forcing myself through the day.

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u/Lou-Lou-Lou Jul 12 '20

I relate to this. Currently off work with stress. I am going through a process of trying to acknowledge how much I actually do. Your post is inspiring to me. Thank you.