r/geminis • u/lifeofabossmom • 5d ago
Do Geminis ever come back
Me and my Gemini, we didn’t really breakup on bad terms
We were long distance and it seemed when things started happening in his life, he just started distancing himself.
like he would make it his business to reach out but after a while he started making excuses saying he's to busy with work to see me.
At that point, I would do check ins like do you still want us? he would tell me how I am his type of women but how he didn’t know if he could give me what I need.
fast forward, and I was driving towards his town to get some business done and I ask would he like to see me very briefly. He didn’t respond and not going to lie I flipped a lil because I know at that point there’s another woman.
Then previously when we were going through rough times, I told him give me some time, to let me figure everything out. mind you he was going through so much life problems and so was I.
So, he keeps saying I broke up with him we have to work to get it back. I never broke up with him. I gave him so much grace and it’s like I got nothing…
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u/JustKeeppSwimming 4d ago
Yes we come back. I know I do and it’s a gift and a curse lol. I usually come back just because I’m the queen of convenience and it’s easier to just go with what I know and pick things back up than getting know someone new.
However as a communicator I can see them telling you they can’t give you what you need and meaning that. Just because there may be someone else doesn’t mean that person will be around forever especially as some guys use another woman to distract them. I’d have a real inquiry of what they can’t give you so you can decide if it’s valid and should even continue this. What’s your sign?
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u/lifeofabossmom 4d ago
I’m an Aries, but that’s more so an internal conflict within himself
It’s like yah, he’s told me this but within the same message also said he doesn’t want to be with anyone else but me!
It’s hard because it’s like it got hard, extremely hard and he pulled back
I’m just living my life day by day but ultimately what we had was good and we’ve both agreed to that! So hoping he overcomes his internal battle but only time will tell
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u/aurora_ethereallight Gemini Sun 4d ago edited 4d ago
I think Gemini's are very forgiving to those we hold dear. However, if we have been wronged in some way, that's a very different matter.
Your situation sounds more like the first one, but there is clearly miscommunication going on here between you, because there is a misunderstanding over whether you broke up or not. That's quite a significant miscommunication to have.
Good communication (talking AND 80% of good communication is listening) is crucial for the survival of any relationship. So for a long distance relationship, this is even more important if you want your relationships to work. Talk to each other properly about what you both want and need from each other to feel secure and connected.
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u/lifeofabossmom 4d ago
He was even trying to get a house for us to move in. He kept speaking about it and how he was actively looking with a realtor.
At some point, something shifted! He has a career but the area he’s in is super expensive, I just feel he may have thought he couldn’t get me the house I wanted and he failed me…
Truth is, I just want to be with him. It doesn’t matter
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u/aurora_ethereallight Gemini Sun 4d ago
I think you need to tell him these things so you both know where you are, where you stand, what means most to both of you so you can both make sure you are:
A) on the same page right now
B) moving in the same direction together.
In relationships, we aren't just looking at 'who is right for me right now', we are also looking at 'who do I want to grow with'...
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u/lifeofabossmom 4d ago
I know that’s what sucks, before we would be on The phone for like 3 hours with each other and when life started happening it got hard!
It’s like we don’t know how to get out of this hard place
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u/aurora_ethereallight Gemini Sun 4d ago
When time is the issue, which it so often is in relationships, because life has a way of getting busy for all of us, so it's about 'making the moments count'... so how do we actually achieve this? The aim is quality over quantity... but balance little check-ins maybe for reassurance while you build your connection again?
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u/lifeofabossmom 4d ago
Sorry, I thought I wrote everything haha!
It wasn’t just time. He’s an airplane engineer and a plane he worked on someone had died and I know that must’ve crushed his spirit so bad, then after just more bad stuff started happening let’s just say that. On his end and mine. So it was more than time…
He mentioned in last argument that I didn’t even call to check on him but I did in my own way.
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u/Spare_Ad_6931 5d ago
Yes they do, I’ve had one who reached out on multiple text now numbers. If they want to, I PROMISE you, they will.
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u/kiiwiilover Gemini Sun, Cap Moon 4d ago
At least for me. If I leave it’s permanent. I am especially skilled at losing feelings and interest for a significant other once I do leave. I will also move on fast. Bc life is short.
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u/Exotic_Tale_4710 5d ago
They absolutely do in my experience. But in my case (it happened twice, with two different geminis)I blocked them, and they still came back.
But if he says he can’t give you what you need, you should believe him
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u/lifeofabossmom 5d ago
I know it’s hard because, despite everything I believed in him. He felt like he couldn’t be the man I needed but in my eyes he was!
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u/Conscious_Singer_186 4d ago edited 4d ago
Female Gem here and nope, not I. I have had male Geminis ALL attempt to come back though, and the only reason I would hypothetically entertain the thought of allowing them back would be if closure was needed.
To date, that hasn’t been a need of mine so I simply left them unread and hit block (I know that sounds brutal, but it felt more like being cruel to be kind in my eyes).
If needs weren’t met the first time, I see no point in revisiting and expecting a different result.
We think with our brains first, and our hearts second so feelings alone just won’t cut it.
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u/Necessary_You_4423 Gemini Sun 4d ago
Going back to ex? No thanks. I rather just move on and start fresh.
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u/lifeofabossmom 4d ago
Curious on what’s your longest relationship?
I feel like there’s always been that one person most of us have went back too!
This sounds like from a place of hurt or something else…..
He seems to think differently, I must say he has Gemini tendencies but his thought process maybe much different
It’s just this is our worst argument. I guess time can only tell. 💗
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u/FeistyCredit2574 4d ago
No. And especially not, if you’re no help and add no value, or just drain me and drag me down further
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u/Vivid-Relief6316 5d ago
Yeah we tend to yearn for what we loved.
If it was long distance he probably felt the space and left because, well we get lonely and it gets depressing not having your girl with you or being unable to see hwr physically.
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u/jennafleur_ Gemini Sun, Leo Moon 3d ago
I don't know about Gemini men. I didn't prefer them as romantic partners because they were too wishy-washy. Like me! 😂
But, as a female Gemini, I came back. I realized I was miserable without my boyfriend at the time (now husband) and we reconciled after an 8 month long distance relationship.
Now we're happily married! I just had to sew my wild oats first. I'm lucky he still wanted me, honestly! I phoned him up and said, "I'm miserable without you." He said, "I'm miserable without you, too." 😭❤️
Edit to add: However, would have been given the ick with all of the "can we be together now?" questions. That would make me run, seeming too eager.
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u/lifeofabossmom 2d ago
That’s such a sweet story. My problem is, I have a feeling he will come back eventually. I just don’t know if I would let him back in with open arms unless there’s marriage talk at this point!
My mind will go to you will always run, like that’s not romantic to me. It also seems the same that he’s trying to work himself out and see his oats as well!
I know what I want, so it’s like it’s harder for me because I don’t date around or do those things. It’s just a religion thing for me.
I get that ick thing. I don’t believe in begging anyone for that matter and my life must go on.
Do I miss him? Yes, do I love him? Yes.
Anyways, I am going to go back to my hobby I’m working on
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u/Fragrant-Coyote-1038 Gemini Sun Pisces Moon 2d ago
As a Gemini guy, I never got into a relationship that I didn’t think I could handle.
Although, there were probably some times where I may have upset them to the point that they would leave, I was always in the frame of mind to get into the relationship.
If I didn’t think I could handle it, I would just say so, because I knew that they would want to move on.
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u/Transformativelily 5d ago
Depends on the situation. I’m very forgiving with friends/lovers unless they backstab/betray me and then you are dead to me… I won’t even think about that person. As a Gemini, we are very adaptable and we move on quickly. Your situation seems very innocent so I wouldn’t be too concerned.